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Is it normal to feel bored in a relationship

  • 05-08-2013 9:36pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Ill try to keep this short..
    Have a great boyfriend. very honest, trustworthy etc.. sometimes when we go out and its just the two of us I feel bored and start people watching.. for example we went to a busy festival most people were there in groups and very drunk but looked like they were enjoying themselves and I felt a bit bored.. other times we go out we have great fun but sometimes I just wish there were more people so its not just the two of us.. (don't get me wrong its not all the time but sometimes.) is it normal to feel like this?


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  • #2
    Meller
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    I think this is normal to some extent. In a long-term relationship where you're spending a lot of time together, you won't always have something to talk about.

    I think it's important to be able to handle being a bit bored when you're together, though, as you describe. It's natural when you feel really comfortable with somebody, and it's a good thing to not feel pressured to entertain one another constantly. I'm sure couples who have been living together for years don't constantly feel excited in one another's presence... it's inevitable when you're close to somebody, to get a bit bored.

    Perhaps you need some time apart though, just so it's more of a novelty when you are together.


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    LegacyUser
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    Meller wrote: »
    I think this is normal to some extent. In a long-term relationship where you're spending a lot of time together, you won't always have something to talk about.

    I think it's important to be able to handle being a bit bored when you're together, though, as you describe. It's natural when you feel really comfortable with somebody, and it's a good thing to not feel pressured to entertain one another constantly. I'm sure couples who have been living together for years don't constantly feel excited in one another's presence... it's inevitable when you're close to somebody, to get a bit bored.

    Perhaps you need some time apart though, just so it's more of a novelty when you are together.

    Thanks I was starting to wonder if there is something wrong with our relationship... I suppose it is normal.. while we were out I noticed a couple sitting across from us they did not speak for the whole time.. I notice a lot of couples like that.. and think if we end up like that were doomed....


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    qo2cj1dsne8y4k
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    I think in a relationship it's important to be comfortable enough with each other during silence, doesn't mean there's anything wrong theres just no need to be chatting away the whole entire time. Just enjoying each others company can be enough sometimes


  • #5
    CommanderC
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    I know exactly what you mean with the people watching. This happens to my gf and I sometimes, but I do think it is normal for ppl in long term relationships. We are comfortable with the silence though and I think that's a good sign. As a previous poster said, couples who spend a lot of time together can't always have new things to talk about. Having your own interests helps a lot :D


  • #6
    IrishEyes19
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    whilst I agree with other posters. Are you spending too much time together maybe? Do you socialise with friends, have you let that slip whilst with your boyfriend and do you go out together but with other people at all or is it just the two of you. I think its important to be able to do that without feeling you have to be together all the time as well.


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  • #7
    LegacyUser
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    IrishEyes19 wrote: »
    whilst I agree with other posters. Are you spending too much time together maybe? Do you socialise with friends, have you let that slip whilst with your boyfriend and do you go out together but with other people at all or is it just the two of you. I think its important to be able to do that without feeling you have to be together all the time as well.

    We usually go out together and meet other people its not when were with other people its just when were on our own sometimes.. the funny thing is I have friends but I have different interests such as going to gaa matches, sports events etc, my friends would never go to them so my boyfriend and I go together on our own as we share those interests. .. it was actually at the galway races I felt like this because everyone was in groups and drunk and it was just the two of us. I find it hard to get friends to do things like that because they all have other "grown up " commitments and little money.
    I have joined two clubs in the last week in an effort to do something on my own.. as yes maybe we do spend a little too much time together. thanks for reply


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