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2nd time round

  • 05-08-2013 1:25am
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    LegacyUser
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    I was with my partner for almost 4 years when we had a break up about 6 months ago.... It was an extremely difficult time due to the circumstances of our break up, however we remained in contact. I always felt that he would have a change of heart and still held out hope for him.
    During the break I started seeing someone else, nothing sexual happened just kissing and talking about sex. I told him I wasn't ready to sleep with someone else which he understood. After about 6 weeks of dating him I told him I just wasn't ready for any type of relationship... My heart just wasn't in it.
    My "ex" dated someone else too, and they were sleeping together. In the past few weeks things came to a head with myself and my ex, we met up a few times to talk about us, long talks and spending time together etc made us both realize we wanted to work on us. He finished with the girl he was seeing. He had said all along it was nothing serious feelings wise....
    We went away for a couple of days last week and we were both so happy together, we discussed the relationship and what had happened and put it to bed as best we could for now. We both see our future together and are still very much in love. He's making huge changes in his life, things I would have loved to see him do when we were together but obviously they were things that he had to realize for himself, I'm so proud of him and I know we're on the right track...
    Theres just one issue. I can't get intimate with him the way I used to. Everything is perfect - I'm still attracted to him and the whole act is going good but I just cannot get him and this other girl out of my head. I'm terrified that that aspect of our relationship is going to suffer, which isn't helping matters. He's being so good about it and is assuring me that we will get that back but its worrying me so much.... I didn't think I'd care but its eating away at me.......
    Is this normal under the circumstances? Its still so fresh - last week was the first time we were intimate since the break up, am I rushing it to feel that it should be the way it always was? All the feelings are still there but I just can't empty my head that he was with someone else.


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