One night

LegacyUser

Going anonymous for this one and going to try and keep details as vague as possible in case she is a boardie (boards came up at some stage but I can't for the life of me remember in what context).

Long story short I met a woman last weekend in Galway city and had a one night stand. She left fairly quickly the next morning only asking for directions, (she wasn't too sure were she was) as it turns out she lives less than a mile away from me but i had forgotten that at the time as had she.

Anyway at some stage in the night we exchanged phone numbers and added each other on facebook (long before the nasty) but within hours of her leaving the next day she blocked me on facebook. A few days later I text her asking her if she would like me to delete her number (partly because she blocked me on facebook and partly because I might text her after a few drinks and wanted to avoid future embarrassment) and she said she would in the nicest possible way. So I deleted her number and all call records that might help me find her number at some future stage as I am a man of my word.

Problem now is I haven't been able to stop thinking about her since.

I am not too sure why she blocked me so quick. Either she goes out and has one night stands every week and that is her thing (not judging her, each to their own) and she just cuts her losses pretty quickly or she was embarrassed and maybe ashamed of what she did and was too embarrassed or something to have me on facebook. I don't know. Also she done something quite embarrassing whilst sleep walking at some stage but I am not sure If she remembers this and I really don't care or judge her anyway.

Anyway I can't stop thinking about her and I know the only way I can stop is by asking her out and if she says yes great and if she says no well then I know and can move on.

Anyway as I have deleted her number the only way I can get in contact is by guessing her number from memory( I am pretty good with phone numbers so I am confident that I could get it right from memory).

So the question is should I just go for it and ask her out or is that out of order? (I am unfamiliar with one night stand etiquette)

William.

Meauldsegosha

I think she has made it clear she doesn't want any further contact with you. So I wouldn't waste your time sending her another message.

_dublinlad_

I'm usually one for saying "sure why not, whats the worst that can happen?" ...but in this case I am certainly not going to say it. She has given the strongest signals imaginable that she is not interested!

This is obviously just a guess, but have you considered the possibility that she is currently in a relationship and did the dirt with you? It seems a very plausible explanation for her trying to delete all trace of you doesn't it?

Anyway.... regardless of why she has done this, I would suggest you respect her wishes and leave her be.

freshpopcorn

I don't think she's that into you. Maybe she's just not looking for a relationship now or in the mood to go out with a guy. I say leave it go to be honest.

Supraman

maybe she's in a relationship and regrets the one night stand after it happened . hence blocking you on facebook so nobody would see you in contact with her . even if it said single on fb status that may not be entirely correct .

desbrook

Remember she blocked you on FB not just unfriended you. To me that says she's definitely not into you - sorry. Put it down to experience mate. All been there ...

endacl

OP, imagine how you'd respond to this post...

"OK, I could use some advice on this. Last weekend I met a guy while I was out and we got along really well. We swooped numbers and connected on Facebook. We actually ended up sleeping together. Drink was taken. Whoops! It's what happened later though that has me bothered...

I unfriended him on fb. I'm really not into being with anybody at the mo, and to be honest things just kinda got out of hand that night. Don't get me wrong! I had a good time, and he seemed a nice guy. Just don't want it to go any further. Anyway, a couple of days later he texted me and said he noticed we weren't friends on fb any more. He said he understood that, and did I want him to delete my number too. I actually thought that was a pretty sound thing to do. He could've just kept the number and said nothing. All good so far, ye say. Here's the bit where she says she wants to get in touch with him and wishes she still had the number? Not at all. What happened next is that he calls out of the blue. TBH, it seems a bit 'stalkery' and I'm kinda freaked out. Advice please?"

ash23

OP, have a bit of respect for her and what she wants. She couldn't have been clearer about not wanting to stay in touch and not wanting to see you. Who knows why but it's not your call to dismiss her wishes.

She has you blocked on FB, she could unblock you and get in touch whenever she wants. She is choosing not to and she asked you to delete her number etc.

Just forget about her and move on.

Merkin

She has been very explicit in saying that she doesn't want any more contact with you. It's no reflection on you necessarily, she just has no interest in a repeat performance or keeping in touch. You have to respect that - trying to make contact now would be invasive and creepy so just leave it be.

LegacyUser

op here.

Thanks for all the sound advice. I couldn't think rationally myself and just needed to hear it from somebody else. I am terrible at reading signals but in this case the writing was on the wall.

I'l know the next time.

Thanks.
W