Invite to a wedding

LegacyUser

I've been invited to a wedding on my own. Female, early 30's, single.
Know a few people going but these would be acquaintances rather than close friends, & all are attending with partners.
One friend says go, it'll be fine, brave it out.
Another says don't, you'll stand out like a sore thumb&/ be a third wheel.
Thoughts?

Big Bag of Chips

Do you want to go?

December2012

Your friend that says you'll be a third wheel obviously places no value on herself as an individual and only as part of a couple.

Go and have fun.

Your relationship status is hardly going to be announced during the vows!

Daisy M

Go and enjoy, I had a friend who was single and every wedding we attended she felt like this for the first hour but after a while she would get stuck in and have a great time. Not one person in our extended group of couples looked on her in a bad light, she was just another friend whom we were all delighted to have in our company.

brandom

I say go! My friend had a very small wedding last year, <40 people in total and I had to go alone. The bride and groom were the only people I knew well, I had met some of her friends and her sisters once or twice, but it was totally fine, in fact it was probably one of the nicest and best weddings I have ever been to, and I never felt alone or awkward

moochers

I'm in my thirties and single too, the last four weddings I attended was by myself and I had a great time. I was the only single at a table full of couples at one of the weddings and they were all lovely. Lots of people go to weddings by themselves, I'm sure you wont be the only single there and who knows you may meet 'the one'. Have a great time

freshpopcorn

I say go. Sit beside someone you know in the church and then it's onto the venue and there be loads of people for you chat and mingle with. The person who said that you shouldn't go because you'll be a third wheel b is giving you bad advice in my opinion you don't need a man to have good fun with your friends and if they think any less of you because you don't have a boyfriend now well I don't think you should worry about these people.

Katgurl

i can't believe somebody actually advised you not to go, unbelieveable really in this day and age. I've lost count of weddings i've gone to alone by this stage. definitely go. it sounds like you know a few there, even if they're not your best mates - unless they are complete tossers you won't be left on your own. Perhaps book your room in the hotel where reception is on instead of neighbouring b&B; at least that way you can retreat for a break if there's a boring gap and you're feeling like a fifth wheel?

simonsays1

I've gone to 5/6 weddings on my own. I was never at a table along with couples only. Usually a mix but generally I just got stuck in and have had wonderful times-met loads of folk etc.
To be perfectly honest, I think it is a great reflection of someones personality -if they can do this at least once in their life time- just trust yourself and do it!

JustAThought

Is it miles off in an isolated venue & will it be mega expensive & cost you a few days off work to go?

Your bride.groom friend might be hurt if you choose not to go -particularly if you don't use a good excuse!!! ( no partner is not a good one!!)

As someone who has gone to a fair few weddings alone my top tip is to get a room in the hotel where you can dissappear off to in the quiet periods before the meal & in the post dinner lull & not have to drag conversation out if the crowd are dull/not warmed up yet!

People at weddings are usually welcoming to new people & know what it's like to be solo & try to make you welcome -the drink & dancing formula helps too! Having a handy retreat is key -if all goes poorly & everyone is abysmal ( most unlikely) you can still retire in dignity & chill at the pool/spa the next day -not too bad for a weekend!

CaraMay

It all depends how good you are at mixing.

Rosy Posy

I'm married with a family but I went to a friends wedding alone this year and had a blast. There was a fair bit of travel involved and finances didn't stretch to the whole family going. The bride was a very close friend of mine from my childhood but my OH wouldn't know her that well. It didn't even cross my mind to feel awkward about being alone in fact I probably had a better time than I would have if my OH had been there since he would have known no one and I would have had to mind him. I hardly knew anyone either except for some old friends that I hadn't seen in years and the bride's immediate family. I think you should go for it (as long as you actually want to go!).