I suspect that I'm being lied too about job by mothers partner?

LegacyUser

I suspect that I am being lied too by my mothers partner about a job, here is the story!

My mothers partner was in hospital for a few weeks and while he was there he got talking to a lady who was looking for cleaning staff at the hospital, so he put me on to her in which we met up, I gave her my CV and we had a little chat. So 2 weeks passed and I hadn't heard anything back about the job. A few days later my mothers partner rang me saying the lady was looking for my references so I gave them to him to pass on to her. I felt a little suspect about this as I had given my CV personally to her and if she wanted my references why didn't she contact me directly?

So another few weeks had passed and I didn't hear anything back about the job and came to the conclusion that I didn't get it. Then last Thursday I was down in my mothers and while I was there my mothers partner said that he had a phone call from the lady at the hospital to say that I had gotten the job and that I will be starting on Tuesday 6th august. He said I should be getting a letter of her during this week. Again I'm thinking why would she be ringing him about the job and not me, doesn't seem very professional.

Today I was down in my mothers and her partner said to me that he was talking to the lady again tis morning and that the job has been pushed back to Monday 12th August and that I should receive a latter this week, AGAIN! Why has she not made direct contact with me about the job?

So I have decided that if I have not received a latter about the job by next Tuesday that I will make contact with this lady myself and find out whats going on. My mother is going around telling everyone that I got a job and all my friend have been ringing me to congratulate me. I will be dead embarrassed if I find out that I hadn't got the job and that my mothers partner has been bull.....ing me. If he is I don't know how I'll react but it won't be pretty! He is knowing for telling a few lies from time to time but what I cant get my head around is why he would be lying about this, the truth will come out latter and he knows that I would investigate it to catch him out!

I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt and if I get the job I will be very grateful for the effort he put in for me but I have this gut feeling that something is not right!

I have been unemployed since 2008, have done a college course and numerous other courses in an effort to secure employment to no avail so you can kind of understand how I would feel if I found out I have been lead up the garden path! Just looking for people's opinions and views and what do you think you would do if you where facing this situation?
I am a regular user on boards just going anonymous for this post! Thanks for taking the time to read this post.

Big Bag of Chips

You should just deal with the woman directly. Contact her now, and ask her has there been any decision on the job. She won't think it is rude or forward. She will be happy to tell you one way or another.

I don't understand why the need for the middle man at all. Thank him for his help. But stop involving him now.

Edit: He mightn't actually be lying to you. He might be putting pressure on her, constantly asking, and she's fobbing him off. The only way you'll know is by contacting her directly.

Merkin

Until you have a letter of offer from the hospital or a phone call to confirm start dates I wouldn't believe a word - the whole thing sounds very strange and suspicious. Why he would lie and string you along like this is worthy of a whole other thread but my first port of call would be to ring this lady directly and ask her has there been any developments on your job application. She will then be able to tell you directly.

LegacyUser

The thing is I have caught him out before and Im kinda waiting to see what happens, I want to see how big of a hole he is digging for himself before the truth comes out. If I don't get a letter by next Tuesday Im going to ask him for her number and see how he reacts! If for some excuse he hasn't got it I will casually say I might go up to the hospital to see her in which I will to see his reaction. I want to see if he cracks under pressure. In the mean time I'll keep asking him questions about the job just to see what he says, not in a interrogation way just simple questions, like how many hours a week do you think I might have to do? I don't want him to know Im on to him.

Faith

I don't understand why you haven't contacted her yet yourself? When she wanted references, why didn't you get in touch with her directly to provide them?

It all sounds very strange, and the only way you'll know for sure is contacting her yourself and being proactive. There's no point in waiting until next week.

Merkin

Am I being lied to by mothers partner wrote: »

The thing is I have caught him out before and Im kinda waiting to see what happens

Why would you even play along? That's just bizarre in the extreme. Surely you want to know if the job offer is genuine or not? Why don't you contact this lady anyway so you know for definite? It doesn't just add up to continue on with this farce while not actually knowing if he's bull****ting you or not? That's just odd.

Faith

OP, you've been unemployed for 5 years and you're more interested in playing games and 'catching him out' than chase a potential job. Why not go to the hospital and speak directly to the woman. If the job's there, great. If not, you know he was messing with you and that's you having caught him out.

Is this thread about a job, or about someone you apparently don't like?

LegacyUser

Merkin wrote: »

Why would you even play along? That's just bizarre in the extreme. Surely you want to know if the job offer is genuine or not? Why don't you contact this lady anyway so you know for definite? It doesn't just add up to continue on with this farce while not actually knowing if he's bull****ting you or not? That's just odd.

I'm waiting to see if I get the letter by friday, its a bank holiday this weekend so chances are she wont be there till Tuesday. I don't want to come across as odd but I want time to think about how to deal with this situation if he is lying to me. If I was to go up to the hospital now and found out he was lying to me more than likely I would do something I would regret and probably get into trouble for it. What Im saying is how would you deal with him if you where in my shoes and he lied to you about something like that? Plus I am trying to give him the benefit of the doubt.

Bigdeadlydave

Just ring now for gods sake, you can just say you are ringing to ask about pay, parking, catering facilities whatever... if there is no job you can just hang up

December2012

You're not giving him the benefit of the doubt at all! You are being immature stringing this matter along and playing games with your mothers partner instead of following up on the job.

You're a big girl - why did you not follow up yourself?

Maybe this person is doing you a kindness and you are being unfair. Maybe he is stringing you along, but meanwhile the job is going to somebody else because they are being proactive and interested while you're not.

Just ring the woman now.

If your mothers partner is lying to you, then you'll know sooner and can focus on job hunting.

Cunning Stunt

Op it's your life - your job. If you are wondering, just ring the woman - why all this drama?

AnonoBoy

Ring the woman. Stop playing silly games trying to catch some fool out.

Seriously, be proactive and go after the job.

ibarelycare

Am I being lied to by mothers partner wrote: »

I'm waiting to see if I get the letter by friday, its a bank holiday this weekend so chances are she wont be there till Tuesday. I don't want to come across as odd but I want time to think about how to deal with this situation if he is lying to me. If I was to go up to the hospital now and found out he was lying to me more than likely I would do something I would regret and probably get into trouble for it. What Im saying is how would you deal with him if you where in my shoes and he lied to you about something like that? Plus I am trying to give him the benefit of the doubt.

You posted this on Tuesday...so you're willing to just sit back and wait a whole week? If this is your attitude, no wonder you haven't had a job since 2008. You need to be proactive and stand up and do things for yourself. Forget about your mother's partner for a few minutes, be an adult and pick up the phone to ring the hospital. If there is no job, thank them for their time and tell them you hope you will be considered if something comes up in the future. THEN sit down and think about how you're going to address your mother's partner.