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Can we still be friends?

  • 29-07-2013 5:28pm
    #1
    minniegirl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28 ✭


    Just wondering for a bit of advice...broke up with my partner last week and while i have already posted on here about the fall out things have calmed down some what and we are at least talking...he is still here but hoping to move out shortly...we were together 5 plus years and most of it was good....while i still care about him i no longer love but we do have kids together so i will always love him for that....

    My question is does anyone think that we can still be friends and not just for the sake of the kids? Do not want us fighting over silly things and what not....just wanted to get some other peoples thoughts on this...


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  • #2
    ahnow
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 262 ✭✭ahnow


    He has cheated on you, and lied about it.
    When he was caught he did not nor is now apologetic for his behaviour.
    He actually blamed you for his behaviour.
    He owes several months rent on the property you both are living in-so in essence he is actually squatting there.
    He leaves you to look after the children and do the housework while he goes out at the weekend with his friends.
    According to you he does not have a good relationship with the children, you said that since you've broken up with him he's all over the children. Your daughter asked "Why is daddy playing with me?"
    He made you sleep on your child's bedroom floor one night, and on the couch after this.
    This is not a healthy equal relationship, why would you WANT to be friends with someone who has treated you like this?
    Minniegirl this man is walking all over you and you are letting him. Why are you not getting angry at him? Everyone is telling you that you need to take the power back in this situation. You need to take your power back, stand up for yourself and your children. You deserve better than this treatment!


  • #3
    minniegirl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28 ✭minniegirl


    Ok ahnow point taken....slight laps of judgement on my part....guess i was just hoping for a rosie garden lol....you are very right in all that you have said and it is all true....

    I can be a bit of a coward at times and just want everyone to be happy but if i go this way then everyone but me will be happy....gotta grow some and get this sorted...i suppose with him in the house it is not helping my thinking...am hoping he will be gone very soon...

    Thank you for ur honest reply me dear


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