Is going out alone weird?

LegacyUser

I'm 23 and not exactly what you would call "popular". I've got 4 or 5 friends who I see only around once or twice a week, and a lot of weekend nights I find myself stuck in the house with nothing to do as the friends I do have tend to be with their girlfriends. It's led me to think fu*k it, maybe I should just go out to a bar in town somewhere on my own and mingle with people. Is this regarded as strange? I haven't actually gone through with it as i'm not sure how easy it is to talk to people when on your own in a bar. Would people be receptive to me or just think "he's a weirdo?"

Wanderer2010

I would love to have the confidence to do this and im in my 30s! OP, I wouldnt call it strange at all it depends on how comfortable you are in your own skin. I think when people are out in a bar or club, they are more caught up in what they are doing or saying to notice who is alone and who is not so if its what you want to do then go for it. I think a conversation with a stranger can be a good thing and interesting if there is common ground. Go for it OP.

dd972

I think having a few jars on your own is no biggie, I'd draw the line at dancing on my own at Coppers trying to initiate a conga though ,

I used to get comments when I used to head out on my own for a few beers, I can never understand why these people make an assumption that the 'weirdo' on their own is alone 24/7 and don't have family, friends and work colleagues like everyone else does.

Lorna123

No, a man on his own is always acceptable, not so for a woman, unfortunately !

Anonymous Account 2013

I dont think so....I travelled the whole of Australia on my own and plan on travelling Asia on my own....amazing experience and I wouldnt change a thing. Going fot for a few pints on your own is no big deal.

Defiler Of The Coffin

Nothing weird about it at all, hang around the smoking area and you'll be chatting to people in no time! I've had some good nights on my own in the local just talking to complete randomers, it's a nice thing to be able to do. Don't rely too heavily on others for a good social life, get out there and make it happen for yourself!

Gannicus

Hi OP,

It's not weird at all. I go the cinema alone all the time and I've gone to the states twice by myself. I do go for a quiet pint or two after work in the evening on an irregular basis. Once you're content and comfortable that's all that matters.

You never know you may meet some nice like-minded people along the way and make new friends. Try taking a class or joining a club to take the sting out of you feeling "weird" for going out alone.

freshpopcorn

It's not a bit weird just head out and have a few drinks and the night will fly. I generally find that I always run into people I know not matter if I head out in my local town or local cities near where I live and I bump into people I know. If you do find the night to be hard going just head home its no problem.

Honey-ec

Lorna123 wrote: »

No, a man on his own is always acceptable, not so for a woman, unfortunately !

Speak for yourself. I've no problem at all going for a drink or a bite to eat on my own. If someone thinks that's weird, it's their problem, not mine.

So no, OP, there's absolutely nothing strange about going out on your own. But yeah, I'd draw the line at hitting the dancefloor somewhere on your Sweeney.

Chucky the tree

I'd have no problem with going to a bar or getting food on my own. But I wouldn't bother to socialise with anyone really, if someone chatted to me at the bar then no problem but it isn't something I would seek out. Also if I was out with my friends and we guy got chatting to us in the smoking area and I found on he was on his own I would find it a bit strange. You shouldn't let what other people think bother you though.

hoodwinked

i am female and at one point in my life about 6/7 years ago i found my friends were never available for midweek nights out when i was working weekends, so i used go to a pub/club i loved by myself every week,


i would usually bump into some people i knew and go over and say hi, and i got to know a lot of the staff too so i would chat away to them, over time i got to know a lot of the regulars and made some good friends who i am still friends with to this day, one of whom introduced me to my husband.

so it can be done, i think the problem with these things is people tend to over think them, or worry about what everyone else is thinking,

the truth is people are too busy thinking of themselves to 'worry about the weird person out on their own" so go out have fun, and enjoy yourself the way you want you never know what could happen on a night out, but you know what will happen if you stay in.

Not in the slightest, OP. Sometimes I love going places by myself - to a cafe with a good book, to a movie I'd rather watch alone (or can't find anyone nerdy enough to see it with!) and when I was younger, I would regularly go out by myself. Just be comfortable with who you are and what you can do.

And for someone who said it's not OK for women to go out by themselves - what a ludicrous comment. Why on Earth would it not be OK?

dorkacle

I've never really done this myself but always thought of it in the same way as the OP.

Although having seen this thread I will defo consider it more now.

Particularly noticing it this week as I am on holidays from work and have sweet FA to do because ( as typical when I'm off) the weather is terrible and everyone else is in work anyway....

Who's coming for a pint?! :pac: