please help with my rights

frosty66

To cut a long story short, my husband has left myself & three young children for another woman, moved in with her

can anyone advise me on my rights, I know there is mediation services etc & legal separation but i'm deeply worried about finances.
I will contact services in time but Im just worried sick thinking about things at the moment
he pays the mortgage, I assume he must continue to pay?
what else must he pay for? I work & two of children are in childminders & other after school care which is a hefty portion of my salary.

on access to the children what is he entitled to.. I don't want to deny my children anything but need to know what is standard if that makes sense.

any other advice for me would be very much appreciated

thanks

LegacyUser

Hi frosty66, first of all can I just say how very sorry I am for your loss and grief. What a horrendous situation to find yourself in. I know that right now you do not feel strong but you will find surprising strength within yourself and you will come out the other side of this shining.

Second of all, it is very important that you see a solicitor at once. Like, today. Only a solicitor can advise you of your rights and responsibilities in this situation.

Perhaps what people can do here is share similar stories and how they coped.

The very best of luck to you and your children.

blatantrereg

You need to talk to a solicitor to sort this out.

jellyboy

there is a forum where you can maybe get support,but i like the other posters would suggest getting legal advice

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=1533

Pwpane

Go to a solicitor at once.

Get advice if you can as to which solicitor to approach, you need one who has a good reputation in family law. Perhaps ask friends who know some legal people in the locality for recommendations, or ask your doctor to recommend someone.

Just ring the solicitor's office and ask for an initial consultation re a separation. You can describe the situation and ask anything you like. They will give you information and advice that's relevant to you, then you can go home and think about it. You don't have to stay with that solicitor or follow their advice but it gives you a starting point and helps to sort your head. When you are clearer, you can go back to them or go to someone else.

johnr1

Hi Frosty, sorry to hear about your situation. Its awful to be so publicly rejected like that, and you must be devastated. Try seeking some counselling yourself which will help you "get back on your feet" in terms of self confidence etc.

We can't give legal advice here, but I'd imagine that in most cases, yes he'l have to continue to pay the mortgage.
Anything else he'l have to pay for will depend on his income and yours.

Get a solicitor. You'll be fine financially. The system in this country will make sure of that.

desbrook

Agree with what every says about going to see a solicitor. Tell everything - they have heard it all before.
Just one piece of advice to avoid conflict . The access is a right of your children to see their dad. It should NEVER be used to bargain for more/less maintenance or vice versa. Even in court they are separate issues and are separate hearings. I'm sure you won't but it's very tempting for both sides to let the two issues merge and this nearly always causes endless conflict.