Money issue

getsome

My partner an I have been together for a few years now, we have one child together and live in rented accommodation.

Recently I have given her some money, that I told her I wanted back. It's been 3 months now and she hasn't attempted to give me any money back. Here's the kicker in the last 3 months she has gone out none stop, birthday party, friends birthday party, work parties and then just nights out. Her excuse is she young and is suppose to do these things, her argument for not giving the money back is that were a partnership and she has given me money throughout the years without looking for it back (but then again so have I).

I need some advice I feel angry, that I am becoming resentful of her financial issues and her lack of ambitious, her family thought her nothing in controlling her money, shes not evening saving or planning a future in anything.

Should I be looking for this money back? Is there a serious issue with her having no drive, ambition or even planning for the future (other than marriage).

Thanks for any help or advice.

judgefudge

If you made an agreement when you lent her the money that she would give it back then yes you should expect it back. However if there was no formal agreement then I don't know if you're legally entitled or anything.

Sounds like there are bigger issues here about respect and her lack of drive. It's really up to you what you want to put up with in a relationship, and whether she's willing to change.