New Girlfriend

LegacyUser

I have recently started seeing a new girl after a nearly 4 year relationship broke up in January.
It's been about 2/3 months now, I've known here through friends for about 3 years should always be at parties etc.

Now, I'm not sure if its just me because I was so used to what I had with my previous girlfriend but at times I feel she's very ..I suppose distant would be the word.

We get to see each other maybe only twice a week if we're lucky. Mainly due to me working full time, but we text each other during the days to see how the day is going or trying to organise something between us.

My main issue is her general lack of interest or what seems to be that anyway. I'd say something or suggest to do something and I wouldn't get a reply..for example I won't see her now till next week due to work and im going away for a few days so today is the only day i can see her and shes free i suggested doing something and nothing ..I dont want to seem annoying so im not going to text again but i have done in the past and she'd reply straight away but completely brush over anything i said in a previous text.

I'm not one to constantly be on the phone texting etc and i'm glad she's not either but it nice to know where i stand or if i should make other plans. She tells me how she hates needy people but when she's drunk and only when she's drunk she tells me how much she really likes me and that she misses me due to us not seeing each other.

Am I missing something here? or is she just playing it almost too cool?
It's quite confusing I don't understand her at all sometimes to be honest. Having said that it just makes me more interested so maybe what she does works haha I really wasn't sure about her at first but spending more time with her and getting to know her ive started to really like her just this is the only thing bothering me.
I'm going to be strong and not seem needy but now i won't see her for a week and a bit.

Any advice? should i say it out straight to her? or maybe that would put her off

thanks

WumBuster

Im in a similar situation with a girl ive been seeing the past 2 months. She's older than me and has kids so i want to give her space.. i.e not be ringing her and texting her every five min about what she's doin later etc. A few days could go by and i might not hear from her and tbh that makes me feel a bit insecure about the whole thing. I think its best to play it cool and not worry too much about what might or might not happen.

LegacyUser

WumBuster wrote: »

Im in a similar situation with a girl ive been seeing the past 2 months. She's older than me and has kids so i want to give her space.. i.e not be ringing her and texting her every five min about what she's doin later etc. A few days could go by and i might not hear from her and tbh that makes me feel a bit insecure about the whole thing. I think its best to play it cool and not worry too much about what might or might not happen.

Yeah, I don't want to be annoying her all the time just feel like she couldn't care less especially with me just starting to like her more and more.
As stated in my OP I asked if she'd like to do anything today earlier and still nothing back. That was at 2pm, before that sent two messages back and forth quick replies.
Don't know if I'm just over thinking things or what.
Thanks for your reply though . I guess I'll try play it cool like her.
Although, I just hate that she doesn't even acknowledge it if I talk to her later.

bluemagpie

It is early days, seeing each other twice a week sounds fairly normal for 2/3 months, maybe you're being a bit too intense for her or imposing expectations from your 4 year relationship onto her. You don't tend to know someone that well after such a short time which could be why you think she is distant.

Why not just talk to her instead of wrecking your own head? It could be as simple as being someone who is not glued to their mobile, or doesn't like using it in work or you're putting too much pressure on her so early in the relationship.