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Anxious about house sharing

  • 14-07-2013 12:21am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I'm in my mid twenties and am working. I lived away from home in college and loved it. After a year back at home I moved out again and thought it'd be easy and fun like in college but it didnt end well
    I moved in with 3 people I didn't know very well and who I like but couldn't 'keep up' with. They went out as much as possible and couldn't understand why I didn't want to. I just didn't feel relaxed at all. It also probably sounds petty but they allllways had friends over in the evenings, which is nice sometimes and I had friends over too sometimes but I felt it was other people's house I guess.

    Rent near me isn't bad so I could live alone but think that'd be the other extreme, I think i'd feel lonely and isolated.
    None of my friends are looking to rent near here the moment so it'll probably be another 'pot luck'.

    I'm not sure what I'm trying to ask exactly, I guess has anyone any tips on questions to ask when viewing houses, or do you think most house shares allow people to live 'seperately but together' as opposed to the previous house where they seemed to want to be a group of friends and always hang out together, so I felt a little odd for wanting a bit more of my own space.


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  • #2
    Stavro Mueller
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,673 ✭✭✭Stavro Mueller


    In my totally unscientific experience, based on my own house sharing and that of my friends, most people do live "separately but together". It looks like you were unlucky to have landed yourself in party central. There's not a lot of real advice I can give you other than to chat to the people in the house you're looking at and try to gauge what you think they're like. There's a lot to be said for gut instinct as well.


  • #3
    CarMe
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 677 ✭✭✭CarMe


    I've shared so many houses and only once (and briefly) I've lived in a house like you described. As the poster above said, you seem to have just gotten unlucky.

    Better luck next time, house sharing can be great if the balance is right :)


  • #4
    shellycub
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 126 ✭✭shellycub


    Hey,

    I've been living in Dublin for the past five years and have shared with someone new every year. Never had a problem like yours so do think you've been unlucky and will get better next time.

    My little piece of advice would be to take your time looking for somewhere new, don't rush in to it and go and see as many places as you can. You'll get a feel for the people and soon figure out if you think you would get on. Try and chat to the people showing you around and even asking about having people over in a casual way will give you an idea of what the story is.

    Good Luck


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