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Dating dilemmas

  • 09-07-2013 11:22pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I've been dating a guy for the last month. He's 38 I'm 31. I usually date ppl in early 30s and i havent had much look with messers etc This guy seemed mature nice and decent. He was ringing showing interest etc. it was going well then last week he made no plans to meet so I asked him out he didn't respond. He got back to me late next day to say he could call over at 6 (i wasn't impressed thought it was s bit late to arrange to meet) i asked him to call over later as I was out at that time. He said he couldn't he had to go to work in morning. I put it nicely to him to make plans a bit earlier and he got a lil cool with me. I didn't hear from him then so I text him and his response was that he got the impression i wasn't interested and felt there was something holding me back and sorry it didn't work out.
    I'm a bit confused he went cold in a day and why text long winded reply just say your not interested.
    I just expected a bit more i suppose as he was that bit older. I'm baffled by guys as I'm coming up against this alot???


Comments

  • #2
    ash23
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,791 ✭✭✭ash23


    Being older means nothing. In fact, sometimes it's worse as people can get very set in their ways.

    He was losing interest imo and didn't want to make the effort anymore, saw an out and took it. He put the blame on you because it makes him feel better.


  • #3
    Merkin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,230 ✭✭✭Merkin


    He was looking for an out and came up with a feeble excuse by turning it on you in order to extricate himself. I wouldn't give it any more thought, these things just don't work out sometimes and it's no reflection on you.


  • #4
    Emme
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,055 ✭✭✭Emme


    Older guys aren't always more mature. Is this guy just out of a relationship? If so he might be making the most of the dating scene and isn't looking for a relationship. Lots of guys that age aren't looking for a long term relationship even though they might say otherwise.

    Forget him and move on.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thank you for your replies. I agree with your points and i really knew that already. I suppose I just needed to hear others say it.
    I really should trust my instinct.
    Thanks again :)


  • #6
    kob29
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 290 ✭✭kob29


    Merkin wrote: »
    He was looking for an out and came up with a feeble excuse by turning it on you in order to extricate himself. I wouldn't give it any more thought, these things just don't work out sometimes and it's no reflection on you.


    This

    You could stay trying to figure out this thought and behaviour pattern for the rest of the year and not make sense of it. He just took the easy out.


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