How many times should I try?

DjangoMc

Right, long story short, mother died and took guardianship of younger brother. Older brother decided to become a right a-hole.
Since she died I've offered the proverbial Olive Branch to many times to count now.
He has threatened me with a solicitor for a rented house, called a 16 year old an ungrateful boll** coz myself and my other half bought him records. Called me all the name under the sun coz I booked my wedding. Two days later him and his other half book their wedding and continue to tell me we've ruined his planning by getting married before him that I shouldn't be getting married before him coz he was engaged 2 years before I got engaged. Got a credit union loan on my mother funeral bill so he could buy himself and herself ipads and what not (the final invoice for the funeral bill was in his other halves name, not mine or his)
He refused flat out to go to my wedding.

Said I'm a bit** coz I brought younger brother to Florida (he needed something nice after my mam died for god sake) and that it makes him look bad. He keeps saying he is flat broke! How in gods name is he paying for a wedding?

Now to stress, he hasn't spoken to younger brother since september last year when he demanded he apologise for being ungrateful and making him look bad.

Each time something happened, family gave their "two cent" and told me I had to sort things out, which I would try do and to which he wouldn't be bothered.

His other half doesn't help things. She is another thing all together that I won't get into (evil is a word that comes to mind)
How many times is enough to try and sort things out?

maria34

Why to bother at all?

I would keep away. No contact, no stress.

Hope he is happy with new ipads :-D

Big Bag of Chips

For a start you need to tell family to back off. Family are very good at coming in, knowing half a story and thinking they know it all.

There is nothing you can do about your older brother.

So it's time now to accept that your relationship with him is damaged, and not going to be fixed anytime soon. It takes 2 people to make a relationship work.

Witchie

Such an awful situation for you all. I cant imagine losing my mum never mind all the other crap you are going through.

Unfortunately, even though family is so important, I think it is time to tell your older brother to leave you alone and that you don't want to talk to him until he can be a reasonable human being. Tell him you understand he is grieving but you all are and he has no right to take it all out on you.

You are amazing for looking after your little brother so well and you don't deserve this from him. Tell him to back off until he can behave himself and get on with your life. One day hopefully he will see sense and realise how amazing you have been.

Stavro Mueller

I've seen a few posts in here from people who've been treated appallingly by their own brothers and sisters. The truth is that being related to someone doesn't automatically mean that everyone gets on.

In the case of your older brother it's time to stop trying to fix things. Maybe he was a nicer person before your mum died or before he hooked up with his girlfriend but that's all in the past now. You don't need someone as malicious as that in your life and your family have some cheek coming along and telling you to fix things. Next time they try to interfere, don't even entertain the idea. How dare they :mad: