Stealing Sister!

OkayWhatever

So I arrived home from work today to discover that 150 euro had been stolen from my bedroom.


My mam had been at work all night,so hadn't been home. The only person who could've taken it is my sister.

I called her about it and asked her and she just hung up on me. I texted her a few times and she replied saying that she only took 50. But it was 100% 150 that she stole.

Money has gone missing before, about 20 euro at a time, and she always swore it wasn't her. So I thought that I must have spent it and forgotten.

What do I do? she's probably already spent the money and i'm not going to get 150 euro back off an 18 year old!

I feel so heartbroken and devastated. I always look out for her and be the best big sister that I can be and have no idea what I have done to deserve this.

And there's the "Should I tell my mam?" question!

No idea what way to handle this so would appreciate any advice!

December2012

Without more information its unlikely she did it to slight you, rather she did it because the opportunity arose.

I do think you should tell your mother and ask her about the money (transparency of proceedings at least).

matt-dublin

+1 and stop leaving money in your room where your sister can find it.

find a hiding spot.

also she shouldnt be in there in the first place to take 50 so pull her up on it and then tell your mom the full story.

No Pants

Bring €150 worth of her stuff to the Pawnbroker. Give her the ticket(s).

OkayWhatever

I only got the money yesterday and it was too late to lodge it into my account so thought i'd keep it in my room until Monday.

Normally its just taken out of my purse. I've always given her the benefit of the doubt before, maybe it was to avoid being in the situation that i'm in now.

Bluegrass1

Call the guards! Let them interview your sister. It won't be long until the truth comes out.

bumper234

Bluegrass1 wrote: »

Call the guards! Let them interview your sister. It won't be long until the truth comes out.

This.

I know she is your sister but she has to learn a lesson now. Petty theft from family member could easily turn into bigger crime later. Also why does she need the money does she have drink/drug problem? Finally get a lock on your door make sure your the only one with a key.

CaraMay

Of course you tell your mother. She is probably stealing from her too.

Zen65

OkayWhatever wrote: »

I've always given her the benefit of the doubt before, maybe it was to avoid being in the situation that i'm in now.

Perhaps you need to have a longer chat with her, and find out why she took the money? What's going on in her life that she felt compelled to steal it from you? Has she taken money from you or your mother before?

Make it clear that you're not going to accept this and that you expect her to repay you. Calling the guards is not the best option IMHO, as you'll likely alienate both your sister and mother. You need to protect your money in future, so find a suitable hiding place for those times when you cannot get to the bank to lodge the money.


Be at peace,

Z

EvanCornwallis

Years ago , when I lived at home I always kept my wallet with a decent sized amount around the house, from time to time I'd count it and be sure that there was some missing , I jokingly said it my my mam, but she called me crazy.

I thought it was just a case of I took some out and forgot. Few months later my mam came to and said the saving account I do for you and your brother has been emptied(about 3000pounds) my younger brother denied it and so did I. We didn't understand where it had gone, as there was no fancy items or purchases around him room.

Well, back then our naive selves received a wide awakening when a load of scum bags knocked at the door threatening my family and looking fr my brother.

Turned out he had started drugs and he went from robbing the odd 50 to completely out of control and emptying accounts.

Op , your post disturbed me a little , because when my brother would rob he ould lie , lie and lie again , if 50 went missing he would say 'oh I only took 30' even when it was a hundred per cent clear.

Tell your mother straight away and both of you need to talk with your sister ASAP. Stealing is stealing but I hope there is a more innocent explanation than in my own case.

IrishEyes19

you need to tell your mother straight away. clearly she doesnt see she has done anything wrong, by telling you it was only 50. she doesnt seem to recognise the very act of taking the money was wrong to start with. I wouldnt involve the police straight away to be honest. you are better off sitting down with your mam, and then both of you speaking to her.

Merkin

I'd definitely tell your Mum as your sister could be fleecing her too. I'd also scare the bejaysus out of her by threatening her with the cops. Theft is a crime, regardless of you guys being related and while I probably wouldn't be able to go through with it you can at least let her think it. I'd also get a lock for my door

Cunning Stunt

OP, as someone else said, you should tell your mother and you should both confront your sister to see why she is stealing and perhaps work out a plan for her to pay it back. And get a lock for your room.