Should I contact an old friend?

LegacyUser

I'm sure for most people this would be an easy question decision, but I'm a bit weird with deciding things like this and tend to over think things, so have decided to see what others think

At school I used to have a friend who I got on with really well, and we'd spend most of the time at school together, in classes and at breaks, (I guess he was my "best friend" or one of two anyway, I just don't like that phrase for some reason). We knew each other since we started school when we were 4 years old (weren't best friends all that time, but still got on well). After we left school when we were 16 (now 24), apart from my other "best friend", I lost contact with everyone else including this guy.

About 2 years ago my mum saw him in a local shop, and he made a point of pointing himself out to her and started talking, asking about me etc. He ended up giving her his email address to pass onto me so that I could email him. So, I sent him an email, he replied asking what was going on and if I wanted to meet up sometime and I sent another one. But then he didn't reply, so I left it.

Recently I've started thinking that it'd be nice to be in contact with him, but maybe he doesn't want to as he didn't reply that time. But I also think, maybe it if he didn't want to then why did he give his email address, and maybe the reason for not replying was something else.

I keep thinking that I'd like to send him a message, but don't want to look sad if he wants to ignore me, so I keep going back and forth.

Maybe I should send him a friend request on Facebook and hope that it causes him to send a message first?

Any ideas? Thanks!

ivytwine

RodneyDangerfield wrote: »

I'm sure for most people this would be an easy question decision, but I'm a bit weird with deciding things like this and tend to over think things, so have decided to see what others think

At school I used to have a friend who I got on with really well, and we'd spend most of the time at school together, in classes and at breaks, (I guess he was my "best friend" or one of two anyway, I just don't like that phrase for some reason). We knew each other since we started school when we were 4 years old (weren't best friends all that time, but still got on well). After we left school when we were 16 (now 24), apart from my other "best friend", I lost contact with everyone else including this guy.

About 2 years ago my mum saw him in a local shop, and he made a point of pointing himself out to her and started talking, asking about me etc. He ended up giving her his email address to pass onto me so that I could email him. So, I sent him an email, he replied asking what was going on and if I wanted to meet up sometime and I sent another one. But then he didn't reply, so I left it.

Recently I've started thinking that it'd be nice to be in contact with him, but maybe he doesn't want to as he didn't reply that time. But I also think, maybe it if he didn't want to then why did he give his email address, and maybe the reason for not replying was something else.

I keep thinking that I'd like to send him a message, but don't want to look sad if he wants to ignore me, so I keep going back and forth.

Maybe I should send him a friend request on Facebook and hope that it causes him to send a message first?

Any ideas? Thanks!

Go for it! My mother recently called in on a school friend she hasn't seen in 40 years and now they've made plans to go for lunch the next time she's in Dublin.

You've nothing to lose, the fact he was asking after you is a good sign. Add him on Facebook, I'm sure he'll accept!

Stavro Mueller

Send the request and see what happens. If it's ignored, don't take it to heart. Sometimes people decide for their own reasons not to revisit old ground again.

December2012

Do it!

Its always nice to reconnect with friends.