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Boyfriend to move away without me??

  • 24-06-2013 2:40pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Uuuuhhhhhhh, ok here it is.

    I've been seeing my boyf for a year and a half and we love each other bla bla bla. But here's the thing. With Ireland being the way it is and what not at the moment, there is all this pressure to move away and live abroad for a better life.

    I have done this already, for three years on my own. I totally want to travel away again to live somewhere but I know that this time I don't want to do it alone. I want to have my partner with me. I am currently unemployed and could most definitely leave the country now but for the fact that my boyfriend is under a perm contract in a good job. So, I don't want to go without him.

    Now he want to travel too and live abroad, but he's got a good job here and unlike me can't just up and leave. When he looks at me, I think he is sort of mad that I won't just go away without him and is afraid now that I've chosen to stay at home (not just for him but becaus eI don't want to go alone) that I will resent him.

    We talked about travelling abroad together but the other day he just came out and said that if he had the opportunity to go abroad and I couldn't go he'd take it. Giant kick in the guts there.

    So now I feel like a big fool, and mostly I'm just needing an opinion on my foolishness seeing as all my friends have also moved away... And don't even suggest going to live with them to not be alone, they are in Australia and that is way too far away from my mother for my liking! What if I'm being the eejit waiting around for him to start a life with me and he'll just get up and leave one day?

    I should probably mention that my unemployment/friendless status at home is bringing me down a lot, but I'm being optomistic that I'll find something soon.



    All comments welcome... should I just stop being a whoss and move abroad on my own and make my life happen, or just stay here until the opportunity that feels right arises?


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  • #2
    Puddleduck
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,183 ✭✭✭Puddleduck


    Hi Op.

    If I were in your shoes I would go. You are putting your life on hold partly from fear, the other from waiting on him to get the finger out. You are lonely here and it sounds like you are itching to travel.
    Theres no reason you couldnt make a long distance relationship work of its what you both want. That way you get the best of both worlds.


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