What do I do

LegacyUser

Have been seeing this guy for about 8 months, on and off since he's very distant at times. I called time on whatever we had last week because I couldn't deal with being pushed away and I didn't feel like I could trust him.
He went off with someone, on a date not a drunken thing, before anything had happened with us but at the time we had agreed we would not meet other people as we had our plans of getting together.

I had trusted him completely prior to that, but although technically he did nothing wrong it threw me and I was a lot more upset than I ever thought I would be.

He ended it with her a few weeks later and we ended up hooking up, again we agrees nobody else, however one night by accident I clicked onto his whatsapp and his timestamp showed him being active a lot, he would tell me he was going to bed or was busy but he'd be on his whatsapp. The night of his Christmas party he told me at 4 he was going to bed but every few mins til 5 he was on whatsapp. This was driving me insane with insecurity, so one night about two weeks later, I notice him on whatsapp every few mins after him telling me he was gone to bed. I freaked out at him and text "thought you were going to bed?" He went mad at me, took the timestamp off whatsapp and blocked me for a bit, he said he had gotten a text that woke him up and was replying to it which I know for a fact was a lie since he'd been on it properly every few mins.

Now for months I couldn't see his activity on whatsapp, until maybe last week when I noticed timestamp back on. Every day he is on it early morning, then maybe once or twice during the day, but come 5 o clock til maybe 11, he is on it constantly.

I ended things last week cause I said I couldn't trust him, he swore to me he'd never do that to me, and that he was sick of trying to convince me he wasnt meeting anyone else, and that he had no interest in meeting anyone else and said if I didn't trust him there was nothing else he could do to convince me otherwise. I gave him the opportunity to tell me if he was texting anyone and he said no that all he talked to was just the lads and his cousin. Most of the lads he texts would have iMessage.

Now he wants to take a break from me and him being friends but was pretty upset when we talked over what we had and both decided not to have anything between us anymore.

I notice all weekend he's been flat out on whatsapp. It's honestly wrecking my head. What do I do? I know I have no right but I feel like he's lying to me.

Dolly Daydreams

I'd delete whatsapp for a start if I were you, it's obviously doing your head in..

Unless you've seen messages that he's texting a girl I wouldn't think too much of the whatsapp thing, he might be he might not be but it's surely not enough to finish over? It's kind of weird behaviour if you don't mind me saying. If I was with someone and they kept showing online after saying night I wouldn't be best pleased that they were stalking my whatsapp movements

Emme

Delete whatsapp and stop stalking this guy.

Try to do your own thing a bit more. Stalking is not cool.

andyournameis

Girl,

You need to chill about the whatsapp thing, I have it and I have IMessage and TBH, I'm on whatsapp alot more, because its free texts and you can text anyone to any where in the world, I have friends over seas in different time zones so my whatsapp is active at crazy hours in the morning and at night time
Do you think he also might be in a group with friends who are having a banter with each other... I have about 5 different groups of friends on whatsapp, so there is times when my phone would be hopping with whatsapp texts...
Finally I think if you need to keep on checking up on him, and what time he has been on line, whats the point in the relationship, you have no trust....

Carriexx

I agree. You aer only driving yourself mental by checking if he's online or not. Block him so you cant see or else delete whatsapp!

Chucky the tree

If you can't trust him then the relationship is as good as over. However you really need to sort yourself out with your unhealthy behaviour for the sake of future relationships. You're behaviour about checking his whatsapp activity to the degree you have been doing is really really unhealthy. Other guys won't stick around if you that's the type of thing you consistently do.