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dont know how to connect with girls

  • 23-06-2013 1:43pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    i am very shy and lack of confidence when a girl likes me or vice versa i just dont know how to 'get' with them. i dont know if they are looking for a one night stand or a relationship or even just friendship. when i trie to chat up a girl it seems to lead nowhere. when i have no agenda because i know the girl has a boyfriend they seem interested in me. other times my friends even have to tell me that a girl likes but i didnt notice. i know timing is everything but i always seem to get it wrong. when a girl shows an interest i totally wiegh her up recently a girl came on very strong to me but i didnt reciprecate because she was mourning her ex(literally not a breakup) she laid it on a plate. but i didnt respond and even tried to avoid her. this wasnt me not liking her but me trieing not too take advantage her being vulnerable. she even said i reminded her of him. did i do wrong? i was very tempted most of friends would have jumped at the chance

    so how do you get from just talking to a girl to going out with them? how can you judge if they want a bit of fun or something else?


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
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    Hey OP. It's tough out there for the shy guys, I'm right there with you!

    Don't try to weigh them up too much when you're chatting (whether they want a friend/date/relationship). Most people don't know what they want when they're chatting to someone at first. Just try to relax and talk to them.
    ................spceb wrote: »
    when i trie to chat up a girl it seems to lead nowhere. when i have no agenda because i know the girl has a boyfriend they seem interested in me.

    This stood out for me. When you're chatting to someone who isn't available, they're interested in you because you're not putting yourself under massive amounts of pressure. Think about how you approach the conversation with the girl who's got a boyfriend... and go over to chat to a single girl with the same mindset.


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