all in my head? or really real? :D

KingMonkey

ok,so lets see....

about a year or plus more i met this girl in my local...i met her through knowing and getting on well with her dad...whos pretty easygoing and down to earth guy...

so anyway,at the weekend there was like a dance/concert thing happening and towards the middle of the night i took a shot and got dancing with her,and that was all good...i said id see her later when she had to leave

so i gets home,and i say,ok ill add her on the facesmash...see how that goes...worth a try,right? and in about 2 mins she accepted...

im thinking,jeez that was quick....

so i said to her,like...hey ur awesome (ive been drinking,aiight?) and ur a great dancer...she was like,oh yeh thanks i better go sleep after all that

what im wondering is...my gut reaction here is yeh,she likes me....but i have a habit of overthinking things plus i really dont wanna fcuk up because i get on well with her dad...ya know?

any opinions on how i should play here?

thanks

username123

Whats the facesmash?

You won't know if it's real until you try ...

_dublinlad_

Firstly, nothing that you wrote there would suggest shes interested in you. Her accepting your friend request straight away means nothing... most people have smart phones these days and get an instant notification of a friend request... she saw it and added you. Plus if it was reversed and she added you and started talking to you... would you say you have to go asleep then?

I'm not down playing your chances here, maybe she does like ya and shes given you other signs that you didn't mention in your post.

I would tend to forget about your relationship with her dad... if you really like this girl then something like this shouldn't stand in your way of giving it a shot.

Best of luck.

KingMonkey

_dublinlad_ wrote: »

Firstly, nothing that you wrote there would suggest shes interested in you. Her accepting your friend request straight away means nothing... most people have smart phones these days and get an instant notification of a friend request... she saw it and added you. Plus if it was reversed and she added you and started talking to you... would you say you have to go asleep then?

I'm not down playing your chances here, maybe she does like ya and shes given you other signs that you didn't mention in your post.

I would tend to forget about your relationship with her dad... if you really like this girl then something like this shouldn't stand in your way of giving it a shot.

Best of luck.

ya there is bit more,there always is but why go into intricate detail here?

thanks for the replies.i was right...the interweb is a bad place for advice but yours is the best

Merkin

KingMonkey wrote: »

my gut reaction here is yeh,she likes me....but i have a habit of overthinking things

That's obvious. Why don't you just cool the jets and see how this pans out? Get to know her and make an informed decision then based on experience as to whether you actually like her rather than starting a thread asking if this is "really real?"

Is what really real? A love affair now that she has accepted a friend request? In answer to your question if it is all in your head or all really real, I would say that it is in your head for now as you barely know her. Relax and see what happens and enjoy getting to know her. Just be yourself and see what happens.

blatantrereg

All that happened was that you danced with a girl, and now have a means of contacting her.

I found your question confusing in the context. You seem to be trying to jump ahead of yourself in an alarming manner. Buying into a relationship with someone emotionally because you danced with them is oddball behaviour. Wondering if she feels the same way is also oddball behaviour.

Yes things do seem to be all in your head. That does not preclude the possibility of making them into reality. Jumping ahead of yourself the way you are makes that unlikely though.

Just chat to her a bit and ask if she wants to go for a drink or something. Don't get broken up if she doesn't want to. Don't read into it beyond her going for a drink if she does want to. Just express that you like her and that you'd like to meet up some time. Don't make a big deal of it.