Birthday ideas for a 4 year old?

hoodwinked

ok the basic question is what do you think we should do for our daughters 4th birthday?


the complications:

A. My family don't get along with my inlaws, vice versa, (don't get along is an understatement)

B. where we live has a communal back garden, its a small 2 bed apartment, so that raises issues of its own

C. her 1st birthday my mum really took care of, she organized the party in her house for all my family and had a great time, there was a cake at each grandparents, (but my inlaws did not turn up to her dads parents house for that party),
her 2nd birthday was here, at home, but was kind of tense, and a complete one upman ship when it came to presents for our daughter from both families (she benefitted well from the day and enjoyed it)
her 3rd birthday was hijacked by the fact we had a family wedding the week after and a get together was not able to be organized so we did a cake and bought her a big present (my family still got her presents though)

D. all her friends are from school, and they are mostly on holidays for her birthday so it will be another all adults and her affair (but then she is used to being the only child around a load of adults as the only child/grandchild/great grandchild of both families) and they all adore her and play with her.

E. if we do anything big outdoors it will attract the local kids (all around 7, 8, 9 10) who are delinquents as the best description i can give them.



so what do we do? we want to throw her a big party to make up for last year, but we have our reservations about that, of course she says she wants a big party, she loves feeling like a princess and dressing up in dresses for family events...so how do we do this?

January

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roymm

A four year old kid would want company of other kids rather than adults on her b'day. if her friends cannot come, you can take her to any nearby kids club. she will definitely enjoy there. god bless her.