To text again or leave it

LegacyUser

Ok so I met a guy out on Friday night - I'm 26 he was 28. Hit it off amazingly and chatted for hours and had so much in common. He said he had never hit it off with someone so quick and I agreed. We laughed for hours. Neither of us were plastered either. Even his friends were telling me they have never seen such a smile on his face. Now i know this all sounds a bit intense for the first night but I really felt something. We had a kiss and he said he'd like to see me again.

So I texted him on Saturday evening - nothing heavy just hoped he had a good night etc. He didn't respond for ages and then when i responded to him I got nothing back.

So now I'm wondering should I text him and ask him out? Or am I wasting my time? I have met guys on nights out before but never felt something so strong than with this guy and can't get him out of my head. Or is it obvious he's not interested from his lack of reply?? He told me he had a great night, was glad he met me and asked me to drop him a text. Maybe he was just being polite.

Any thoughts??

anmhi02

amy1986 wrote: »

Ok so I met a guy out on Friday night - I'm 26 he was 28. Hit it off amazingly and chatted for hours and had so much in common. He said he had never hit it off with isomeone so quick and I agreed. We laughed for hours. Neither of us were plastered either. Even his friends were telling me they have never seen such a smile on his face. Now i know this all sounds a bit intense for the first night but I really felt something. We had a kiss and he said he'd like to see me again.

So I texted him on Saturday evening - nothing heavy just hoped he had a good night etc. He didn't respond for ages and then when i responded to him I got nothing back.

So now I'm wondering should I text him and ask him out? Or am I wasting my time? I have met guys on nights out before but never felt something so strong than with this guy and can't get him out of my head. Or is it obvious he's not interested from his lack of reply?? He told me he had a great night, was glad he met me and asked me to drop him a text. Maybe he was just being polite.

Any thoughts??[/quote

So you answered his text and he hasn't replied yet.....so he had you're number. To be honest if he wants to see you again hell get in touch if not he won't. I wouldn't text him asking him out if I was you....the balls in his court...but usually if a guys interested he'll text or ring..if he's not he won't....sorry to be blunt . Either way I hope it works for you. :-)

Merkin

amy1986 wrote: »

I have met guys on nights out before but never felt something so strong than with this guy and can't get him out of my head.

Do you think that perhaps he might consider you to be extremely intense? I'm not being harsh but you met this guy in, I presume a busy pub or club, and you're talking about a connection like you've never experienced before. That's a BIG statement right there, especially when you only spent a while chatting to him and he's someone you ultimately don't know from Adam. I understand that you can meet someone out and about and feel like you have a connection but you can't really invest too much hope in it when you haven't met him in the cold light of day or had quality one-to-one time with him. What I'm getting at is that you don't know him!

He has your number. If he is keen he will ask you out as I think you have probably made it quite clear to him that you're interested. Leave it and if you hear from him all well and good but if you don't then you have your answer.

LegacyUser

no harm in texting him one more time... you never know if he ran out of credit or busy at work or anything or maybe he is'n texting back becuase he is already spoken for

LegacyUser

Op again,

Thanks for the replies. While it seems like I might be the intense one I certainly didnt give off those vibes that night... far from it! He was the one saying he hasn't met a girl like me in a long time and would love to see me again and to drop him a text. Now as I said he wasn't drunk so that's why it seems strange that I haven't heard from him.

But I guess if he is interested I will hear from him again.

I know I sound over invested in this but I have chatted to guys on nights out before and this one feels very different to me.

Brego888

Wait for him to text you. And I don't say this in a "let the man do the chasing" thing. If he's interested he'll get in touch. After you made the initial contact it's now up to him.

Blarney92

I know most people here are like wait for him to text you but you really have nothing to lose by texting him (I know you sent the last text). If he doesn't reply fair enough and if he does take it from there.

Guys (such as me) can be weird about things like this. I'd say give it a shot- even something simple like saying "Hey just wondering if you're around this weekend for a drink. No worries if not, just it'd be nice to see you again".

As I said, a text wont take that much time/effort and at least you should have a better idea then.

Best of luck!

Lorna123

If he didn't reply to your text then you are onto a loosing battle. Actions speak louder than words so in my opinion you would be chasing him if you contacted him again.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the replies guys. Still haven't heard from him and I'm in two minds. Am thinking of texting him this evening or tomorrow evening... just something casual. I know he didn't reply to my text but then again I didn't ask a question and it was quite a short text that didn't necessarrily require a response (i know some people are bad at texting and don't reply to non-qestion texts).

njs030

It would be chasing him if you contact him again-but so what?

Maybe he forgot/deleted the message without saving your number/ god knows what!
Or maybe he's not interested!

If he's not intending on contacting you again it'd be better you know so you can get him out of your head.

You'll only know if you get in touch, maybe send a light friendly text rather than asking him out and see where it takes you.

I've often found that if the question "should I text again?" pops into your head, then chances are that you probably shouldn't.

Lorna123

notjustsweet wrote: »

It would be chasing him if you contact him again-but so what?

Maybe he forgot/deleted the message without saving your number/ god knows what!
Or maybe he's not interested!

If he's not intending on contacting you again it'd be better you know so you can get him out of your head.

You'll only know if you get in touch, maybe send a light friendly text rather than asking him out and see where it takes you.

I would not like to be seen chasing after a guy I hardly know. Maybe, he this, maybe he that............all excuses. If he intends contacting you again OP you will get a text, you texting him again is not going to look good for you. You have already sent him a light friendly text and it didn't take you anywhere. Best to leave it alone now.

blatantrereg

He was the one saying he hasn't met a girl like me in a long time and would love to see me again and to drop him a text

If I suggested someone drop me a text, I probably wouldn't expect them to do it within 24 hours. I don't think he's been inconsistent or misleading. I think you're being a bit full on.

To be blunt, if you keep texting him then you'll seem desperate and/or pushy. There are few things more off-putting than someone being too full-on too early on imo.

Best idea: Let him take his turn to text you, or not.
Ok idea: Leave it at least a week or two and then text him casually.
Bad idea: Text him again before he replies any sooner.

December2012

It's now Wednesday so he's had your number a few days.

Irrespective of credit / busy / work if he wanted to get in touch with you by now, he would have.

Maybe he just wants his ego stroked by getting you to text him (you did), and he hasn't texted you back or rang.

Forget about contacting him.

neaideabh

I say f()ck it!!! Go for it! Then f()ck him if he doesn't reply!

StickyIcky

Wait a few days and text him again. I had a very long relationship with a girl after she text me out of the blue two weeks later. She forgot to text me back but after that it was a text marathon and seeing each other regularly. You lose nothing by waiting and texting him again. I agree with what blarney said and what boney said but mostly with what I said :-)

LegacyUser

Text him and see how he is.. who cares!

Life is too short for pussy-footing around I reckon. I don't believe in all that 'when is too soon to text' and appearing 'too eager' for texting someone within 24 hours. That's rubbish. If you like someone just go for it!!!!

Babooshka

opamy wrote: »

Thanks for the replies guys. Still haven't heard from him and I'm in two minds. Am thinking of texting him this evening or tomorrow evening... just something casual. I know he didn't reply to my text but then again I didn't ask a question and it was quite a short text that didn't necessarrily require a response (i know some people are bad at texting and don't reply to non-qestion texts).

You are setting the pace of how it will go, even if he does respond. do you want to be the one doing all the chasing? If that doesn't bother you, fair enough. I like to know a bloke will do a little bit of pursuing me though. Not talking about game playing, I have always responded if guys texted me when dating etc. respectfully and all of that. But it was nice to know they were interested enough...some of them even actually rang me, not texted...in this day and age, wow, it's amazing! I am a little old fashioned, so I say let him do some work for you girl. If that means even expending his energy to send you a whole sentence by text...well aren't you worth at least that?

Lorna123

opamy wrote: »

Thanks for the replies guys. Still haven't heard from him and I'm in two minds. Am thinking of texting him this evening or tomorrow evening... just something casual. I know he didn't reply to my text but then again I didn't ask a question and it was quite a short text that didn't necessarrily require a response (i know some people are bad at texting and don't reply to non-qestion texts).

Whether you asked him a question or not would it not occur to you that if he wanted to see you again he needs to reply to your texts???

m'lady

I'd personally not text again, as a previous poster said you are setting the scene and you will end up doing all the chasing.. Head wrecking! He has your number, leave the ball in his court!

Merkin

opamy wrote: »

Thanks for the replies guys. Still haven't heard from him and I'm in two minds. Am thinking of texting him this evening or tomorrow evening... just something casual. I know he didn't reply to my text but then again I didn't ask a question and it was quite a short text that didn't necessarrily require a response (i know some people are bad at texting and don't reply to non-qestion texts).

I don't think you should text again and for two reasons:

1. If he is not interested then you are merely prolonging the agony and kidding yourself. You will misconstrue each reply as interest and so the cycle continues. Each time he replies you will be encouraged and you'll be back wondering when to text him again.

2. If he is in any way keen he will initiate a text. As someone else pointed out, don't go setting a precedent of chasing him as that's not a great way to start off. Trust me, if he wants to stay in touch and see you again then he will be in touch with you.

I'd let this one pan out naturally. He has your details so let him reciprocate some of the interest. If he doesn't then he wasn't as arsed as you thought he was. I know you thought you had an amazing connection and you said he wasn't drunk but you don't actually know him enough to be sure of that. He may have been hammered (some people can sink ten pints and not be falling over the place necessarily) and might not even recall the deep and meaningful conversation as much as you did. Who knows. Either way I'd leave it - if it's meant to be he will be in touch and you've already shown him you're interested.