right so here is my issue plz help

shy_boy

I am in a relationship nearly 4 years i have never seen this girl as tha 1 to marry and im sure she thinks the same ...thing is if you believe in atttaction and connection with some1 and the the 1 for you.. I believe i have found it a girl i use to go to school with.. 4 long years ago in school i always fancied her we were friends but i never had the courage to step up so i guessed i had lost my chance anyway lately i can not seem to stop tinkin about her and crazy stuff like i have seen her mother twice in the last 2 weeks while shopping and i was watchin tele and there was a horse with with her name all the feelings i had for her 4 years ago are back.. I have not met her in 4 years but we ar friends on face book and she seems to alwys be single i dont no wat to do should i try message her on face but i would have to tell my preasent girlfriend which i love thats its over first emmm i just dont no wat to do

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Deal with one thing at a time. If you don't want to be with your present girlfriend, end it. Then maybe try your luck with the girl on Facebook, but of course theres no guarantee she's as amazing as you remember, or that shell be interested, or even that it will work. Only you know if its worth taking a chance on

judgefudge

If you love your present girlfriend then why don't you see yourself marrying her? Why even be with someone you can't see yourself with in the future??

First things first, break up with current girlfriend. It'll be hard but it needs to be done.

Secondly, I'd recommend some time being single after any long term relationship.

You can get in touch with that other girl if you want but don't have any major expectations.
- she may be seeing someone
- she may have absolutely no interest in you
- she may turn out to be a horrible girlfriend

It seems you have put the memory of this girl on a pedestal in your head. Don't be too surprised if she turns out to be entirely different.

shy_boy

LexieOnRale wrote: »

Deal with one thing at a time. If you don't want to be with your present girlfriend, end it. Then maybe try your luck with the girl on Facebook, but of course theres no guarantee she's as amazing as you remember, or that shell be interested, or even that it will work. Only you know if its worth taking a chance on

Thank you lexie for your quick reply i no wat u mean its a gamble that mite not pay off but the thing is i do love my present girlfriend
But feel things could be better

msg11

shy_boy wrote: »

Thank you lexie for your quick reply i no wat u mean its a gamble that mite not pay off but the thing is i do love my present girlfriend
But feel things could be better

If you loved your current girlfriend them feelings would over ride the feels for this girl you are having.

It's a gamble in the sense that she might not feel the same so you will end up single. Don't stick with someone you are not in love with you'll end up sticking with someone because it's a handy option and all the wrong reasons.

Or you could totally forget about this girl and focus more energy on your current relationship but if there's no change I think it's best for yourself if you let her go.

shy_boy

Anyone else have any thing to add??

Meauldsegosha

The grass is not always greener on the other side, OP. you knew this other girl 4 years ago when you were still in school. You have both probably changed a lot in the mean time.

What you really need to look at is your relationship with you current girlfriend. If you don't see a future with her, you owe it to both of you to finish the relationship. You both deserve to be happy.

CaraMay

You souns very immature. What do you think is going to happen? Why are you not dumping your gf when you are obsessing so much about someone else?

shy_boy

CaraMay wrote: »

You souns very immature. What do you think is going to happen? Why are you not dumping your gf when you are obsessing so much about someone else?

Ok first of all i dont think i am immuture if tat was the case i would have droped her lik a hot cake and never tot twice about her feelings. I am not to sure about wat way to go about telling my gf i have fellings for som1 else ?? Do u honestly tink it is that easy?....al do i no were your coming from.. Like how can i break up with with som1 when i know i am going to be in a absolute mess overr it and so will she..

Taltos

OP - please no more text speak. Per our charter & site faq it is not allowed.
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Thanks
Taltos

ibarelycare

OP what age are you? It sounds like you're suffering from "grass is always greener" syndrome. How can you consider telling your girlfriend that you have "feelings" for someone else, when you have barely spoken to that person in years?

I think you need to forget about the other person for now, and focus on your relationship. If you're able to develop feelings for someone else, feelings that are so strong that you're considering leaving your girlfriend, then obviously there are issues in your relationship.