Affairs

Dick Stack

Hey folks.

Been with my girlfriend almost 4 years now. We get on great - I do believe that we'll marry one day and when we're both 90 years old, we'll still tell each other that we love each other.

Still there's that one thing I've never told her - I so much want to sleep with other women. Even had a brief affair last year, about which I still feel bad. Ok call me a bastard and a sad old git and whatever else comes to mind ... but the fact remains. Now don't get me wrong - I do love her. Maybe I'm just highly sexed or something, but I can't help thinking about women I meet on a daily basis. They all facinate me - I mean all women do. Don't know why, but they do.

Does anyone else experience the same thing, or am I really a mad bastard ??! All openions welcome, especially female views ! Are my desires normal ? Will it work out? Can it?

Thanks guys

moy83

I wouldnt tell her about other women . She wont want to marry you after hearing that .

Taltos

OP - please clarify what specific advice you are looking for here or we will close this thread.

Thanks
Taltos

CaraMay

I think you are more bad than mad.... Did you have unprotected sex with your fling? Is your gf at risk if catching an sti?

You do realise that if you truly loved her you would not be shagging around on her. If you truly loved her you would go to the ends of the earth rather than hurt her, yet you bring hurt unto your relationship by cheating on her?

You can stay with her and spend your life pulling the wool over her eyes while you sleep with others but doesbt she deserve more? Do you think that's good enough for her?

Bottom line is cheats normally get caught out. You might get away with it for a while but eventually most get caught. Are you happy to take the risk of breaking her heart, losing your home and kids if you do have them, paying for a house you can't live in, seeing her meet someone new who loves her too much to.hurt her etc etc. This could be your future.

Sounds like you are either with the wrong woman or too immature to see the value of having the right one.

Dick Stack

CaraMay wrote: »

I think you are more bad than mad.... Did you have unprotected sex with your fling? Is your gf at risk if catching an sti?

You do realise that if you truly loved her you would not be shagging around on her. If you truly loved her you would go to the ends of the earth rather than hurt her, yet you bring hurt unto your relationship by cheating on her?

You can stay with her and spend your life pulling the wool over her eyes while you sleep with others but doesbt she deserve more? Do you think that's good enough for her?

Bottom line is cheats normally get caught out. You might get away with it for a while but eventually most get caught. Are you happy to take the risk of breaking her heart, losing your home and kids if you do have them, paying for a house you can't live in, seeing her meet someone new who loves her too much to.hurt her etc etc. This could be your future.

Sounds like you are either with the wrong woman or too immature to see the value of having the right one.

I think it's an urge I'm going to have to learn to suppress. I do love my gf for many many reasons (I'm 28 years old by the way, so not just a confused teenager !). It would hurt her to even learn that I have these thoughts, never mind if she ever found out I had acted on them.

Maybe I need to find another outlet for my surplus energy, maybe I'll take up golf or something ... boring or what ?!

It's all such a risky business anyway. I'll never forget last year when I did have the fling ... constantly thinking of ways to hide it, always worried I'll drop myself in it by saying something that gives the whole shootin' match away. And not just with my gf, with the other girl too. God it was messy, I ended up so exhausted when it ended.

So the human race has made itself a monogamous one ... hope I can blend in to that somehow !

Pabmac

Your name suits you perfectly

fermanagh_man

What's your sex life like with your girlfriend?

Maybe your bored and it just needs spicing up?

Taltos

Can I remind posters that PI is strictly moderated. If you have no constructive advice you are asked not to post, equally unacceptable is being uncivil to the OP.

Thanks
Taltos

Dick Stack

fermanagh_man wrote: »

What's your sex life like with your girlfriend?

Maybe your bored and it just needs spicing up?

Good and varied. Anal, oral and vaginal - all at least twice weekly. Also light s&m and role play ever week or so

Taltos

OK Dick

I cannot see what can be served by this thread any more.
You know what you are doing is wrong as long as you hide it. Having not responded to clarify what specific advice you are seeking I am closing this thread.

Final word. Have a chat with your partner. If she is happy to have an open relationship great. If not, then she is not the one for you nor you for her.

All the best
Taltos