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confused whether he is shy or not

  • 10-06-2013 6:03pm
    #1
    jenna1057
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20 ✭


    Hi everyone just looking for someones opinion on this and felt a bit odd bringing it up with my friends as they might just tell me what I want to hear and an outside perspective might be better…so I was home from college during Christmas on a night out with all my old school friends for a few drinks and there was loads of people attempting to do the the 12 pubs. Anyway I’d say we were in our 3rd pub and I was just about to leave until a felt someones hand on my shoulder which was odd and turned around and this guy was signalling me to come and chat to him and his friend which I did, thinking why not?.. anyway long story short the guy that pulled me back said my friend here has spotted you for the last three pubs and would love to take you out sometime,.. the boy in question seemed a bit shy but I was really flattered! We got chatting anyway got on really well and he asked me where I was heading to later and that was it I never saw him after but thought of it all night as he was so cute and it genuinely didnt seem like what a typical lad would come up and say to you!.. A few months went by and I thought of his occasionally and I randomly was home one night and ran into him just as I was leaving the pub with my friends as he was coming in the door and smiled at me and started messing with my hair! And again I didn’t see him after!.. this past weekend I was out and ran into him once again and a friend of mine knew some of his friends so we were dancing with them all and my friend said he was looking over at me but he still didn’t come over on talk!.. I had heard that he is extremely shy from someone who knows him and id normally wouldn’t really read into something like this as i am really laid back but is he just being shy or was it just a random approach from someone? All my close friends have different opinions which is confusing me further haha thank you!!


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  • #2
    Lorna123
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,116 ✭✭✭Lorna123


    I think he could be very shy and was highly embarrassed when his friend called you over and told you he fancied you. It looks like he will not make a move based on this, but should you see him again you could ask him why you never went for that date, or failing this you could ask one of his friends what his name is and then send him a friends request on Facebook. It certainly looks to me like he is too shy to make the first move.


  • #3
    astonaidan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,456 ✭✭✭astonaidan


    Seriously its 2013, make the first move yourself :mad:.
    Like it sounds like your into him so honestly dont know whats stopping you


  • #4
    jenna1057
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20 ✭jenna1057


    Lorna123 wrote: »
    I think he could be very shy and was highly embarrassed when his friend called you over and told you he fancied you. It looks like he will not make a move based on this, but should you see him again you could ask him why you never went for that date, or failing this you could ask one of his friends what his name is and then send him a friends request on Facebook. It certainly looks to me like he is too shy to make the first move.

    thank you so much for your responses but would it not be a bit random for me to just add him out of the blue on facebook? .. i suppose its fair to say im a bit shy too in the sense that i dont know how to go about making the first move!!


  • #5
    Lorna123
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,116 ✭✭✭Lorna123


    jenna1057 wrote: »
    thank you so much for your responses but would it not be a bit random for me to just add him out of the blue on facebook? .. i suppose its fair to say im a bit shy too in the sense that i dont know how to go about making the first move!!

    He might be embarrassed that his friend told you he fancied you and he hasn't a clue whether you feel the same or not so he is afraid to make a move. You need to let him know you are interested. If you both have facebook pages it is very common to add people whether you know them well or not so that wouldn't be looked on as being strange. Now if you see him again you could easily go over to him and jokingly say "I thought you wanted to take me out sometime, well what ever happened to that idea". You have nothing to lose as you have already been told that he fancies you. Go for it and don't waste any more time. Hope it works out for you.


  • #6
    astonaidan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,456 ✭✭✭astonaidan


    jenna1057 wrote: »
    thank you so much for your responses but would it not be a bit random for me to just add him out of the blue on facebook? .. i suppose its fair to say im a bit shy too in the sense that i dont know how to go about making the first move!!
    It really is easier for a girl to ask a guy out, believe me were flattered when it happens
    Lorna123 wrote: »
    He might be embarrassed that his friend told you he fancied you and he hasn't a clue whether you feel the same or not so he is afraid to make a move. You need to let him know you are interested. If you both have facebook pages it is very common to add people whether you know them well or not so that wouldn't be looked on as being strange. Now if you see him again you could easily go over to him and jokingly say "I thought you wanted to take me out sometime, well what ever happened to that idea". You have nothing to lose as you have already been told that he fancies you. Go for it and don't waste any more time. Hope it works out for you.
    100% this would work on me, so Id go with that


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  • #7
    jenna1057
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20 ✭jenna1057


    astonaidan wrote: »
    It really is easier for a girl to ask a guy out, believe me were flattered when it happens


    100% this would work on me, so Id go with that


    thank you again for all the advice everyone, it sounds like the general opinion is to make a move! i just dont really want to all of a sudden add him on facebook incase i scare him off haha!.. but i will definetly try and let him know im interested the next time i see him which will hopefully be soon :) my friends have been pretty much been saying what ye have advised too!!


  • #8
    astonaidan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,456 ✭✭✭astonaidan


    jenna1057 wrote: »
    thank you again for all the advice everyone, it sounds like the general opinion is to make a move! i just dont really want to all of a sudden add him on facebook incase i scare him off haha!.. but i will definetly try and let him know im interested the next time i see him which will hopefully be soon :) my friends have been pretty much been saying what ye have advised too!!
    TBH its not really suddenly adding him on it, Ive had girls add me before I got home from the night out,
    I can nearly guarantee you the best way to go is making the move on him


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