Guy troubles

Pretty Polly

Hi,

2 weeks ago: I met a guy and we hit it off. He got my email from work and sent me a lovely email asking me out on a date. I was surprised when i received the email as i didn't feel he was my type or I his... I could sense he was super confident, almost full on from the beginning.

For the next few days we texted. He was almost arrogant in his texting style and his comments were kind of blunt. Not hurtful though.

Date 1 - Tuesday 4th June: It was a practically perfect first date !!! I couldn't get to sleep for hours afterwards...There were 1/2 arrogant comments during the night but overall it was perfect. I questioned him on the behaviour. He said he was just very self confident and values honesty.

Trying to Organise Date 2...our texting style is causing friction. I don't know him well enough to know if he's just being sarcastic and having a laugh or if he's an arrogant @#+*. He changed the day of date 2 and then I had to change it again to yesterday (Saturday). He mentioned that he was ''trying to free Saturday'' and said he was ''still trying to move plans around''.

Saturday: I put the ball in his court and asked him to sort the day for Date 2. I could have said it in a nicer way but i was pissed at his language:(. I was a bit mean too...The way he phrases things actually makes me mad! He didn't reply to that msg and i haven't heard from him since.

Sunday: I want to text him. He sometimes comes across as arrogant when he texts but he is so much nicer in person!

My head is a bit all over the place. I don't want to text him and appear needy but I do really like him!

Any advice?

Esoteric_

You can't like him all that much if you're angry at how he speaks and texts. If he comes across as being arrogant, why would you want to waste your time?

If you want to see him again, there are two options.

If you were very rude in your last text to him, text him and apologise for how rude you were.

If you weren't rude, don't text him, let him text you since he ignored your text.

Honestly, it sounds like more hassle than it's worth tbh.

ladysarah

he sounds very arrogent and maybe he could be controlling. you sound like a lovely girl who deserves what she gives respect and comprimise. my advise is not ti text.

daisybelle2008

He is not responding so I'd leave it, especially if dealing with him is causing your head to be all over the place. I wouldn't overthink it or second guess it. IMHO just leave it for now.

Pretty Polly

Ok so a little update.

I decided to text him after on Tuesday night as I felt our last conversation could have ended better. We text for a good few hours on Tuesday night. Flirty, fun and sweet:)

Since then I haven't text him or he hasn't text me. Last week he wanted me to arrange the second date because he wanted to see what I would plan. I told him to pick the day and I would plan the date. Maybe he is waiting for me to arrange the 2nd date and that's why he hasn't text???

I agree with the above comments in that its probably more hassle than its worth. I have decided that if he wants a 2nd date then he can text me. If not im going to forget about him....well try to anyways!!:o

Jimmy 5F

What sort of comments did he make which we're arrogant? Is it possible you are misinterpreting his comments.

Colonel_McCoy

I would just ring. If he doesnt answer or call back, forget about him.

Pretty Polly

I text him after yesterday. I wasn't going to as I was hoping he would make the move.
So I suggested Saturday for our next date and he agreed. We chatted for hours last night and i've had to resist the urge to text him again today...I'm still trying to resist the urge. I don't want to come on too strong:o Its going to be a long week until Sat!

CaraMay

Chill.... You are really over invested in this after one date. You have a date now so leave it until then. If he doesnt arrange date no3 quickly then I would think he is not interested.