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Lost With Love

  • 09-06-2013 5:58pm
    #1
    silver appleyard
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3 ✭


    Ok well this may be a bit long so Ill give ye the heads up in advance.

    In my time on this earth, Ive liked four girls properly. One thing all these girls have in common is Ive really liked them but could never build up the courage to make the move on any of them even though they all gave me plenty of signals.
    The thing is and I am a good looking guy and well confidence is something Ive not lacked since I left secondary school and Ive always been a people person.
    Its really getting me down as the girl Ive been into well for about 4 years has emigrated to Canada today. She was a girl I got on with really well and basically everyone couldnt understand me not asking her out.
    I missed out on the whole teenage experience as I live out in the country so never really had alot to do with girls outside of school and was more interested in sports anyways, but I cant say Ive had bad experiences with girls as girls generally like me.
    I really havent a clue how to get over this problem any words of wisdom would be appreciated


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  • #2
    Distorted
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,064 ✭✭✭Distorted


    Well OP, if you want to succeed in anything, you have to put an effort in. How do you train in sport - do you think of an end goal and work towards it? ie you think of the strategies that will take you to your goal. Well, do the same with the next girl you like!


  • #3
    silver appleyard
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3 ✭silver appleyard


    Distorted wrote: »
    Well OP, if you want to succeed in anything, you have to put an effort in. How do you train in sport - do you think of an end goal and work towards it? ie you think of the strategies that will take you to your goal. Well, do the same with the next girl you like!
    While I get where your coming from as a sporting guy myself, my problem is more it only seems to happen with girls Im into regards the sort Id like as my girlfriend.
    So where I see where your coming from, then again I could just be seriously over thinking this to the extreme


  • #4
    ManOfMystery
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,394 ✭✭✭ManOfMystery


    Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

    Lots of people lack the courage to ask someone out. I've been there myself, and I suspect many of the other people reading this thread have too. And it's usually down to a fear of rejection; you'd sooner not ask a girl out at all (and spend 4yrs wondering 'what if....?'......) than ask her and have her turn you down.But you can't go through life being scared of everything that doesn't come with a guaranteed outcome for you. You have to take risks to get anywhere, and if you were interested in girls who were actually giving you signals, then those risks are really not that high at all.

    Ultimately, it's just a hurdle in your head which you have to overcome. What's the worst that can happen - you ask a girl out and she says 'No'? There could be a million reasons for her saying no - too busy, doesn't want a relationship, enjoying her single life, and so on. Or ..... she may not be interested in you that way, just as there are girls out there who you aren't interested in romantically. If she says no, the world won't end. Just accept it and move on, and in time you'll meet someone else who feels the same about you as you do about them.


  • #5
    silver appleyard
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3 ✭silver appleyard


    ManOfMystery wrote: »
    Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

    Lots of people lack the courage to ask someone out. I've been there myself, and I suspect many of the other people reading this thread have too. And it's usually down to a fear of rejection; you'd sooner not ask a girl out at all (and spend 4yrs wondering 'what if....?'......) than ask her and have her turn you down.But you can't go through life being scared of everything that doesn't come with a guaranteed outcome for you. You have to take risks to get anywhere, and if you were interested in girls who were actually giving you signals, then those risks are really not that high at all.

    Ultimately, it's just a hurdle in your head which you have to overcome. What's the worst that can happen - you ask a girl out and she says 'No'? There could be a million reasons for her saying no - too busy, doesn't want a relationship, enjoying her single life, and so on. Or ..... she may not be interested in you that way, just as there are girls out there who you aren't interested in romantically. If she says no, the world won't end. Just accept it and move on, and in time you'll meet someone else who feels the same about you as you do about them.

    Well as it stands it will be a while before I ask anyone out as the only girl Ive ever been into in Ireland has gone to Canada, I really have no interest in anybody else from my town.
    I pretty much got the same advice from my friend, he even threw in a Why Babe Ruth has the most runs, because he struck out the most times analogy :mad:
    I do get where everyone is coming from though, I think my problem is seriously overthinking things


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