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Father's day card/gift?

  • 03-06-2013 7:01pm
    #1
    Mrs Garth Brooks
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,865 ✭✭✭


    My parents separated in the 90s. My dad moved out and he never made the effort with us (sister&brothers). I was 16 or 17 when he moved out, so im not sure if I was too old for him to visit home.

    Birthdays were forgotten, and he never even visited on christmas day.

    We're grown adults now and I got over it, years ago. I sometime see him on the street, and when I do, I do talk to him. But thats it really, he's more like an uncle more than a dad.

    Its been years and years since father's day was acknowledged. Its the same for his birthday.

    Im thinking of sending a card. Im not sure why or do I need a reason? He's in his 50s, far from old. But he's been drinking and smoking himself to the grave for years. I hear of people younger than him having a heart attack. He wont be around forever.

    Even thinking about it seems awkward. The first card in years. What do others think? Do I send a card or will it be weird?


Comments

  • #2
    clairefontaine
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,390 ✭✭✭clairefontaine


    I think you should do what feels right to you.

    Just if you do send it send it without expectation.

    As he is a depressive drunk he isnt capable of much.


  • #3
    Esoteric_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,255 ✭✭✭✭Esoteric_


    As the poster above me said, if you want to do it, then do it, but don't expect any response, let alone a postive one.


  • #4
    The_Conductor
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 32,286 Mod ✭✭✭✭The_Conductor


    It would be a nice thought- but you would have to accept that you were sending him the card for your benefit, rather than for his. It would be nice for you and you'd know in your heart and soul that you'd made the effort, whether or not he acknowledges it is another thing. For your own sake- send the card, but just don't have any expectations that it will somehow open a dialogue with him.


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