How do I find other people?

LegacyUser

I better start off by saying I am on the Autism Spectrum, so socialising isn't very easy for me.

There was another guy I was interested in, but as it turns out he didn't feel the same way, so I'm feeling a bit down as I've never been in a relationship with someone before and I was hoping he would also be interested.

What I'm wondering though is where do I go from here to find girls/guys? I'm not very sociable and I'm obese. I am working on the obesity part, but I have no idea how to work on the socialising part, mainly because I have no idea how to find people who are looking for someone, what do I do? Where do I go from here?

Czarcasm

Annoyedandatadlonely wrote: »

I better start off by saying I am on the Autism Spectrum, so socialising isn't very easy for me.

There was another guy I was interested in, but as it turns out he didn't feel the same way, so I'm feeling a bit down as I've never been in a relationship with someone before and I was hoping he would also be interested.

What I'm wondering though is where do I go from here to find girls/guys? I'm not very sociable and I'm obese. I am working on the obesity part, but I have no idea how to work on the socialising part, mainly because I have no idea how to find people who are looking for someone, what do I do? Where do I go from here?

Hi OP, I just wanted to pick up on one thing you said there- you're approach is a bit off, you don't need to go finding people who are looking for someone, that puts you in a position where you'll settle for anyone.

You just need to keep putting yourself out there and while you don't say where you are on the autism spectrum, I'm sure it's made you conscious and means you have to work harder than most people on your self confidence.

If you don't mind my asking, what steps are you taking to lose weight? Joining a gym or a zumba club, some aerobics or swimming classes might be some ways you could both exercise and meet people with similar interests at the same time, and who knows, maybe there's a guy there might take your fancy.

LegacyUser

Czarcasm wrote: »

Hi OP, I just wanted to pick up on one thing you said there- you're approach is a bit off, you don't need to go finding people who are looking for someone, that puts you in a position where you'll settle for anyone.

Makes sense, thanks.

Czarcasm wrote: »

If you don't mind my asking, what steps are you taking to lose weight? Joining a gym or a zumba club, some aerobics or swimming classes might be some ways you could both exercise and meet people with similar interests at the same time, and who knows, maybe there's a guy there might take your fancy.

Currently I'm watching what I eat and exercising at home, I didn't think of the possibility of meeting someone while going to a gym or swimming, maybe I'll give that a shot, thanks.

LegacyUser

Sorry for taking ages to respond, I thought I had sent a reply earlier, but I must have typed the verification wrong

Czarcasm wrote: »

Hi OP, I just wanted to pick up on one thing you said there- you're approach is a bit off, you don't need to go finding people who are looking for someone, that puts you in a position where you'll settle for anyone.

Hmm, thanks. I'll keep that in mind

If you don't mind my asking, what steps are you taking to lose weight? Joining a gym or a zumba club, some aerobics or swimming classes might be some ways you could both exercise and meet people with similar interests at the same time, and who knows, maybe there's a guy there might take your fancy.

Currently I am cutting back on what I eat and doing some exercise at home, I'll have a look at what sort off stuff is around me, like swimming or a gym, thanks.

Czarcasm

Good stuff OP. Just to let you know though aswel but when you're posting anonymously, the posts may take a while to appear because they have to be approved by a Moderator. That's why you see the above posted twice- you replied earlier, but it was in the queue to be approved