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Am I foolish to wait ?

  • 01-06-2013 8:11pm
    #1
    emmaah1987
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1 ✭


    I started seeing a guy in October and fairly quickly into it he wanted to make it official , even though we hadn't really had the chance to get to know each other that well. I really liked him though so was delighted to be his girlfriend .

    However after only 2 months he broke up with me saying he didn't really think we were that compatible personality wise and I was devastated especially as he was the one who pushed to make it official initially.

    We have recently started meeting up again & he has now moved back home which is 2 hours away. He says he wants to keep it casual and has been fairly honest about this in fairness- says he doesn't want to commit to a relationship. (He is also going through some fairly tough times in his personal life). I kind of knew this already but I can't help but feel that there is no hope and if I continue to see him every few weeks that my feelings will continue to grow but he possible never sees it going anywhere anyway .
    We recently spent a great night together where he said we had the best laugh we have ever had and got on better than ever and he's happy to meet up when he's in Dublin etc to get to know each other which we never really got a chance to do the first time around .

    I would love to get others opinion on whether someone can be genuinely interested but just not be in a position to committ ? Or whether he just is not that into me which I really hope isn't the case. I should point out that when we broke up it ended fairly badly we both said things we regretted and I was extremely upset so possibly he just doesn't want that responsibility again .


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  • #2
    Tigger99
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,247 ✭✭✭Tigger99


    He hurt you by breaking up with you. You said things in anger, which can happen and now you almost feel like a burden, a responsibility. Added to that he now wants it to be casual. It sounds like a really horrible place for you to be.

    Read back what you just wrote. I think instead of asking if it's foolish to wait maybe you should be asking why you have such a low opinion of yourself that you'd be with someone who seems to be very half hearted about you. You deserve to feel valued and special in a relationship, do you feel like that with this man?


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