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2nd date kiss was terrible

  • 23-05-2013 12:40am
    #1
    Guffy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,245 ✭✭✭


    So been in contact wit this girl for a while, asked her out a couple of weeks ago just went for a walk on 1st and had a little kiss. Just finished second date and had a full on kiss or whatever but it was terrible. I mean for me, tongue was tickling my tonsils like.

    I like her and we moving slowly which is a first for me as my past experiences have been fall out of bed into a relationship. I like the way this is progressing, a nice change like and we get on great but this kiss really could be a deal breaker.

    Any advice? I mean I can hardly just say wait a minute your a shocking shift do it this way!


Comments

  • #2
    DEmeant0r
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,165 ✭✭✭DEmeant0r


    Tell her how you like it, if she likes you she'll adjust.


  • #3
    Czarcasm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,076 ✭✭✭✭Czarcasm


    Close your mouth OP. No, seriously, when she goes to kiss you like that, close her down, and take it a bit slower, you take control. It sounds like she's either inexperienced, or overly passionate, but either way wrapping her tongue around your tonsils isn't comfortable for you.

    She obviously really likes you OP so saying it to her straight out may make her fiercely self conscious every time she goes to kiss you, and self consciousness is a real passion killer. When she goes to inject her tongue, that's when you need to inject a little humor. It doesn't have to be a dealbreaker OP.


  • #4
    Lux23
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,134 ✭✭✭Lux23


    My boyfriends gets quite tongey when he's excited, I like little kisses most of the time, so we weren't compatible that way. So when we are in bed, I sort of do his thing, while we do my thing when we kiss out of bed.


  • #5
    _dublinlad_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 243 ✭✭_dublinlad_


    This really isn't as much as an issue as you think. Generally I find as relationships build and a couple spends more and more time kissing... you sort of merge kissing styles don't you? She will sooner or later notice the way you like it and slow down. Don't think it should be necessary to tell her to cool the jets, as this may well embarrass the girl..


  • #6
    beks101
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,802 ✭✭✭beks101


    May or may not be a big deal, depending on how things progress.

    I know on the face of it it seems trivial, but I'd put a lot of stock in that kiss with a new partner - that's kind of where the chemistry and bonding and sexual excitement should happen. It's pretty damn important. So if you're constantly trying to ward off an onslaught of heavy tongue action, it's sort of hard for those things to happen.

    I'd suggest taking everyone's advice and try to "guide" her next time and see if that makes a difference.


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