One nightstand regret & The Fear

LegacyUser

Had way to many alcoholic beverages and ended up having a one night stand also acted like a fool for the night..
Hope i never see the person again.
Feeling disgusting, embarrassed and have extreme paranoia.
Dont want to leave the house. Don't want to ever go out in public again.. Don't want to be alone with my own thoughts. Extremely depressed. This usually lasts for a few days as i keep doing this to myself lately. I really am going through mental torture..
(I know this is all self inflicted and i have to stop drinking. )
Does anyone else go through this? or have any stories to cheer me up..

Overheal

this isnt really a general discussion forum...

what advice are you looking for her? Why don't you try verbalizing your thought process there. You're in mental anguish but what are you torturing yourself over, and why the fear of going outside?

Stavro Mueller

The're no point in beating yourself up over what you've done. You can't change the past but you can do something about the present and future. The logical starting point for you is to stop drinking.

If you find yourself unable to stop drinking or to control it, then you need to go to your GP and seek help.

beks101

No disrespect OP but your post made me LOL
We've all been there!

Learn from this.
We all resolve to "never drink again" after nights like that, only to find ourselves tanked again a few days/weeks later...remember this. No amount of craic is worth the paranoia, humiliation, fear, pain, depression you deal with in the aftermath. Alcohol is a depressant so what you're going through is normal and to be expected.

You know your vices and you know what you can't handle.
If you vow to let this night be the lesson that you needed, then it will be well worth the pain. Don't lose the run of yourself again.

Get lots of sleep now, stay hydrated and take all the slagging in good spirits

LegacyUser

i get the fear for around a week after drinking, so bad ive had to stop drinking, i get hot and cold sweats horrible flashbacks and think things happened that didnt, i am like a zombie for a full week, the best thing you can do is take a break from drinking one weekend at a time, go to the cinema, a comedy gig, even out for a meal with friends to pass the time, beleive me you will wake up feeling so much better, life is so much better with a clear head, hope this helps

changeling

neverdrinkingagain wrote: »

Had way to many alcoholic beverages and ended up having a one night stand also acted like a fool for the night..
Hope i never see the person again.
Feeling disgusting, embarrassed and have extreme paranoia.
Dont want to leave the house. Don't want to ever go out in public again.. Don't want to be alone with my own thoughts. Extremely depressed. This usually lasts for a few days as i keep doing this to myself lately. I really am going through mental torture..
(I know this is all self inflicted and i have to stop drinking. )
Does anyone else go through this? or have any stories to cheer me up..

Stop drinking.

Floppybits

neverdrinkingagain wrote: »

Had way to many alcoholic beverages and ended up having a one night stand also acted like a fool for the night..
Hope i never see the person again.
Feeling disgusting, embarrassed and have extreme paranoia.
Dont want to leave the house. Don't want to ever go out in public again.. Don't want to be alone with my own thoughts. Extremely depressed. This usually lasts for a few days as i keep doing this to myself lately. I really am going through mental torture..
(I know this is all self inflicted and i have to stop drinking. )
Does anyone else go through this? or have any stories to cheer me up..

What is the reason for your guilt? Did you break any laws? is this something you do all the time or is it rare for something like this to happen?

If it is something you do all the time and this is the result then you really need to take a look at your drinking and maybe cut back on it.

if this is a rare then All you did was go out get drunk, got a bit randy/horny and had a one night stand and that is it, unless you did something else that you are not saying like forcing the person into having sex or having sex with an underage person? Other than that OP you did nothing wrong, if you are that bothered by what you did then learn a lesson from it and move on.

DeltaWhite

Hey OP

the fear is horrible, I've been through the exact same and there is nothing you can do to stop the feeling. You just have to suck it up and get on with it! Those feelings of wanting to crawl into a hole and never come out are only temporary anyway in a few days you will be grand!

Have to say I don't miss those days! I rarely go out these days and when I do, I watch what I drink very carefully so those episodes don't happen hope you're feeling better today!

qwertytlk

Did you ever listen to the song "last night" by Lucy spraggan? YouTube it. Seriously its a song about exactly what you have described. Beer fear!!! Lol

hope your feeling better

LegacyUser

neverdrinkingagain wrote: »

Had way to many alcoholic beverages and ended up having a one night stand also acted like a fool for the night..
Hope i never see the person again.
Feeling disgusting, embarrassed and have extreme paranoia.
Dont want to leave the house. Don't want to ever go out in public again.. Don't want to be alone with my own thoughts. Extremely depressed. This usually lasts for a few days as i keep doing this to myself lately. I really am going through mental torture..
(I know this is all self inflicted and i have to stop drinking. )
Does anyone else go through this? or have any stories to cheer me up..

Hello,

You remind me of me.
As other user has stated, don't beat yourself up about it. It was probably bad but it's not the end of the world.

I used to constantly be like this, drink too much and make a dick out of myself but then decided it wasn't worth it anymore and decided to limit my drinking to no spirits and a max of 8 pints

sineadmc701

Something that helped me when I would be guilting the hell out of myself over mistakes is I would say "lesson learned", to try and help myself move on and stop the mental torture. I feel your pain and have been there. It WILL get easier with time. But try and think of any mantra that ends the guilt and shame.
Lesson learned. That's all.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the replys ...
Theres a mix of people here, who clearly don't understand going on a "session" and those who do haha..
I definatly didn't do anything Illegal or majorly wrong etc, just feeling stupid because i never had a one night stand before. It is a lesson learned for sure!!

LegacyUser

did the exact same thing last weekend. i rarely drink these days, about once every 2 months on average! and ive only really started drinking again after a break from it for 2.5 years. but brought a guy home, i was terrified i made an absolute @rse of myself!!! and afraid my (foreign) housemate heard everything!!! the guy took my number when he left...

i was thinking "ok, im never going to hear from him again". started getting really terrified and depressed for how i acted, cos im a pretty reserved person!!! but low and behold he text me, and we have a date this weekend. i feel so much better now. still embarrassed about meeting him and not remembering what i was like last weekend. not remembering what i was saying to him, and what he was saying to me!! he remembered my cats name, i didnt even remember his name the next morning!!!

anyway, my point is that you might have thought you were worse than you actually were. ive woken up on a sunday morning (when i was 19-23) going OH GOD!!!! but then my friends would tell me i wasnt that bad! if this guy text me, i dont think i was actually as bad as i thought i was!