Isolated Teen Lesbian!

btvs1995

I'm only 17 and left school a few years ago due to personal problems so I lost all my friends, and became isolated up until this year. (Still kind of am). During that time of self isolation I realised I was a lesbian. I didn't have a good reception from family, and still don't, after telling them but tbh I don't care about what they think anymore, I'm used to their queer/dyke jibes, even though I'm feminine, but in a grungy/rocker/punk clothed style sense. Anyways, my point is because of this, I can't seem to find any locally gay people (drogheda/louth) and it's starting to become frustrating, I have no idea how to find them as I haven't developed ''gaydar,'' can't go to pubs and clubs, my town seems to be really homophobic and Dublin, in terms of money, is too far of a stretch for me, I have no idea where to go from here.

Also, I'd like to add that if I ever do meet a girl that I'm interested in I'm afraid of the idea of ''chatting her up,'' (which would turn out to be painfully embarrassing/awkward because I have no flirting skills), incase I freak her out if a girl turns out to be straight, or incase she's not interested. I mean how do you deal with it/go about it? Sorry if it's too much to answer, I just need a little help or push and can't seem to get it on a personal level.

mr.anonymous

It's a shame you had a bad response from your family, but you're right not to let it get you down.

It is a huge relief to talk to other gay people in the same situation, so do try and find some.

http://www.belongto.org/groups.aspx?gclid=CP3Ij4vLlbcCFeXItAodTxQAjQ#Louth

Email - youth@outcomers.org

^ That link from BelongTo has groups listed for Louth. B2, and groups like it, are professional and I think you should try emailing them.

I'm no expert in chatting up woman... or really anyone
But, I think this is just one of those things you annoy yourself with. I never thought I'd kiss another lad, but that happened eventually!

You're only 17, but that's good. You're young. I couldn't have even told anyone I'm gay when I was 17, so you're at a good stage in life to explore your sexuality.

Hope that response helps you a bit, and hope you're not feeling too bad

Annasopra

Dundalk outcomers has a youth group

http://www.outcomers.org/groups.aspx?title=aim-young-adult-group