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Annoyed because I like him?

  • 13-05-2013 10:26pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    This probably sounds ridiculous but I need someone to talk it out with.

    I'm a 22 year old girl. I started seeing a guy (same age as me) just under two months ago. I've only had one relationship previously; he started messing me around so I dumped him and that was that. With this guy though, things are so different. He's so sweet and nice, and we get on so well!

    The only problem is that I feel like I'm holding back because I don't want to get hurt. I start to get subconsciously annoyed at him while we're hanging out and it's only because I like him so much (love him even?) that I can't deal with it. With my ex, part of the reason I didn't give him another chance (he had had several) was because I was starting to have stronger feelings for him and I felt the longer I kept seeing him for the more upset I'd be in the end. It's basically the same with this guy...except I've no reason to want to break up with him.

    Also, I'm emigrating soon. It's only to europe so not very far, and only for 2 months initially, though chances are I may have to be there for at least a year. There is nothing here for me unless I do a masters of change field entirely, whereas he has a good job and can't leave. We haven't had a chance to talk about where we stand (neither in the present or with regards to the future) as we've both been very stressed about other matters and purposely avoided it. But I don't even know what I want. I mean, I never miss people, even when living abroad, but I miss him and I saw him only a few hours ago, I don't know if I could do long distance...but I don't want to not be with him either.

    I'm not even sure what I'm looking for here but I'm just a bit annoyed about the timing of everything, and feeling quite stressed and insecure about it, any advice would be appreciated.


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  • #2
    Lorna123
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,116 ✭✭✭Lorna123


    If you are only going to Europe initially for 2 months you can still keep in touch with this guy and time will tell if you are meant to be together or not. If you feel after 2 months that you cannot bear to be apart from one another then you have the option of doing the masters and trying to get a job here. It's Murphy's Law that the minute you have other plans, in this case to go to Europe, you meet someone who you really like. All of this has the potential to work out so calm down.


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