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Love but am I still in love?

  • 11-05-2013 1:50am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I love my boyfriend. We have been together 2 years, which is one of the longest relationships I have ever had.

    The problem is I don't really feel attracted to him anymore. I have gone off sex and haven't been making an effort to see him as much as I used to.

    Tonight I got drunk and started flirting with a ONS that I am friends with on fb and that really made me fear that I want to have sex with people other than my fella. I wont cheat on him, I love him too much to do that to him, but now am confused that I could want sex with others but not him.

    Really confused.


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  • #2
    Call Me Jimmy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,449 ✭✭✭Call Me Jimmy


    Sounds like you're not confused. Trust your feelings, life is very very short and ye get old fast.


  • #3
    _dublinlad_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 243 ✭✭_dublinlad_


    You want to have sex with another man and have grown bored with your current boyfriend... what is to be confused about here?!

    You no longer love your BF. You obviously still care for him a lot and think he is a great guy, but by what you wrote its fair to come to the assumption that you no longer love him.

    You need to be single right now. Your BF does not deserve a girl that is just tagging along, let him go and find someone that truly loves him. Do it sooner rather then later for both of your sakes... especially his.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Its often not as simple as that, the relationship could be a really good one, and people often go through phases of being less attracted to their OH. People dont generally stay at the same level of attraction and passion after a few years of being together. I dont really know what to advise the OP but is it not true that relationships aren't always plain sailing and one or the other is going to be tempted at one stage or another?


  • #5
    lover_of_life
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 36 ✭lover_of_life


    You are with your bf 2 years and as you have said you do love him. In my opinion every relationship has a slump in the bedroom. I think you should try spice things up in the bedroom and give the relationship a chance. You wouldn't of stayed with him for two years if you didn't think he was worth staying with.

    Ask a close friend who has been in a long term relationship, and if they were honest they will tell you that they have had a period of a slump in the bedroom. Try to ask yourself what has changed with your boyfriend that you dont feel sexually attracted to him anymore? Maybe a bit of role playing could be in order?

    As others have said life is short. If you give the relationship a proper chance and you still feel this way, move on girl.

    Good luck OP I hope it all works out for you


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