What am I doing wrong?

LegacyUser

I really need some honest advice. Basically I feel like I alienate people and I'm not sure why but it really gets me down and I feel very alone.

I don't go out very often so I started online dating. I met 3 people, all of which asked to meet me again and abruptly cut contact within days of the second date. Just stopped talking/replying. Deleted me off Facebook and disappeared from my life. One actually cancelled our first date and deleted his profile saying he was emigrating-2 weeks later the profile was back!!!
Another told me after our second date that I lived too far away-he's since tried to arrange a meeting with my friend who lives 40mins further.
Just today a man I'd been speaking with for weeks dropped me-he was mad to get a second date until I agreed yesterday and literally mid-conversation today he stopped replying, deleted me off Facebook and gone.
There's many more that I spoke to and just drifted away.

I'm reasonable attractive, try hard to dress well and look decent and be a fun person to be around. I don't work but I fill my time with other activities. I have friends and family and a social life and I'm not really interested in marriage but I do want to date and have fun with someone interesting.

I really don't know what I'm doing wrong that makes people lose interest so suddenly but it's really getting me down. I just want to crawl into bed and stay there for a week!!

Please advise me!!!

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Whatswrongwithme wrote: »

I really need some honest advice. Basically I feel like I alienate people and I'm not sure why but it really gets me down and I feel very alone.

I don't go out very often so I started online dating. I met 3 people, all of which asked to meet me again and abruptly cut contact within days of the second date. Just stopped talking/replying. Deleted me off Facebook and disappeared from my life. One actually cancelled our first date and deleted his profile saying he was emigrating-2 weeks later the profile was back!!!
Another told me after our second date that I lived too far away-he's since tried to arrange a meeting with my friend who lives 40mins further.
Just today a man I'd been speaking with for weeks dropped me-he was mad to get a second date until I agreed yesterday and literally mid-conversation today he stopped replying, deleted me off Facebook and gone.
There's many more that I spoke to and just drifted away.

I'm reasonable attractive, try hard to dress well and look decent and be a fun person to be around. I don't work but I fill my time with other activities. I have friends and family and a social life and I'm not really interested in marriage but I do want to date and have fun with someone interesting.

I really don't know what I'm doing wrong that makes people lose interest so suddenly but it's really getting me down. I just want to crawl into bed and stay there for a week!!

Please advise me!!!

Any reason why you think that you alienate people OP?

Tetra

I think you should stop being so hard on yourself OP.

I have tried internet dating. Some people out there are just a-holes.

I have met different men myself. Some of them did the disappearing act after three or four dates. Some came crawling back a few months later, some didn't. Of course I told them where to go!

Even tonight I got a message from this guy. We had been texting and messaging for a few months, then he stopped replying to my messages. Anyway, tonight I got a call: he is in my city for the night and wanted to meet because "his friends had gone to bed and he was alone". I am exhausted because I had a big exam this morning and only got two hours of sleep last night. The idea of a few drinks was tempting but I really didn't want to respond to what was essentially a booty call (it felt like that to me!), so I said "no thanks, I am tired" and then he wanted my address! I was very taken aback.

Internet dating is difficult, and I think you need to grow a thicker skin.

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Whatswrongwithme wrote: »

I really need some honest advice. Basically I feel like I alienate people and I'm not sure why but it really gets me down and I feel very alone.

I don't go out very often so I started online dating. I met 3 people, all of which asked to meet me again and abruptly cut contact within days of the second date. Just stopped talking/replying. Deleted me off Facebook and disappeared from my life. One actually cancelled our first date and deleted his profile saying he was emigrating-2 weeks later the profile was back!!!
Another told me after our second date that I lived too far away-he's since tried to arrange a meeting with my friend who lives 40mins further.
Just today a man I'd been speaking with for weeks dropped me-he was mad to get a second date until I agreed yesterday and literally mid-conversation today he stopped replying, deleted me off Facebook and gone.
There's many more that I spoke to and just drifted away.

I'm reasonable attractive, try hard to dress well and look decent and be a fun person to be around. I don't work but I fill my time with other activities. I have friends and family and a social life and I'm not really interested in marriage but I do want to date and have fun with someone interesting.

I really don't know what I'm doing wrong that makes people lose interest so suddenly but it's really getting me down. I just want to crawl into bed and stay there for a week!!

Please advise me!!!

Would you think maybe you might be coming on to strong or clingy ? Internet dating is a mix of people.