Courage/Confidence

jamo2oo9

Okay so I'm 18 now, Leaving Cert is around the corner and I have Debs coming up in August where I'll need a date or someone to go with me. I have a girl who I'd like to ask her out to go with me but I can't ask her! I have four weeks left and this may be the last I'll see her before the summer as we don't really know each other too well but the chances are that she isn't taken and that's why I'd like to ask her out. I tried asking her out last week during lunch. I was all ready to go and ask her out but at the last second, I panicked and pulled out. It seems I was too scared about this. Is there a way of overcoming this problem. I'm not a very social type of person so I wouldn't be the kind of guy who goes chatting up every female I see in my sights. I'd ask my female friends but their already taken and I don't know what to do... I really hate this shyness of not being able to talk to females or mainly asking them out. I can hold a conversation but I'm not really a good starter..

As much as I think it would be great if you could build up the confidence to ask her out, since time is of the essence maybe you could approach it from a mate-date standpoint?

Either way, the key is to go straight in guns blazing:
"Oh hey, <insert name here>?"
"Yeah?"
"I'm looking for a date for the debs, fancy coming with me?"

If yes, great, if no, instantly recover and shrug it off with a "fair enough, don't worry about it".

skybhoy121

A few years on from my debs i can feel your pain! i was in a similar situation trying to build up confidence. Had it all planned out one day but didn't find the the right time (excuses)...but seriously it doesnt really matter go ask her if she says yes/no it won't matter, only reason she will say no is if she is goin with someone else already. so give it a go sure

jamo2oo9

Well thanks for the replies. I'll try true-or-false conversation on Monday and see how it goes. Thanks a million! I will let you know of the result.

Legs.Eleven

true-or-false wrote: »

As much as I think it would be great if you could build up the confidence to ask her out, since time is of the essence maybe you could approach it from a mate-date standpoint?

Either way, the key is to go straight in guns blazing:
"Oh hey, <insert name here>?"
"Yeah?"
"I'm looking for a date for the debs, fancy coming with me?"

If yes, great, if no, instantly recover and shrug it off with a "fair enough, don't worry about it".

Absolutely agree. Just bite the bullet in that moment and don't even think about it. If you overthink it, you'll chicken out.

Good luck!!

Lorna123

What you could do is just have a conversation about the end of your school life and say how much you will miss all your friends etc. Then ask her is she going to the Debs and if she says she has nobody to go with then you could say "neither have I but I would like to go, would you". If on the other hand she says she is going then you will know that she has someone to go with so say nothing.

jamo2oo9

Very sorry for the late reply as I was busy with the grad mass, last minute projects etc.. Anyway I did get talking to her last Wednesday as she wasn't in on Monday or Tuesday but long story short, she accepted my invitation and I have a date for the debs. All sorted now and she's really delighted about it! Thanks all for the help!

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wahey well done!!

December2012

Well done. Enjoy and good luck in the exams.