Pursue after one night stand or let her be

killer kilbane

Hi all,
Just wondering, met this girl at function on friday and turned out we were staying in the same hotel... We ended up talking in the bar for a few hours, had a lot of things in common, we hooked up and all was good. The following morning, we went our seperate ways, but left on good terms. One downer in her eyes is she is a few years older than me.

Have her number, made contact through facebook today just opened a chat about what we were on about on friday,maybe a bit vague in my contact but wanted to test if she would respond... no response so far. Not too worried as of yet.

not sure what i am looking for but would like to see if she was interested?

would i be better off to leave it as a one nighter

monflat

killer kilbane wrote: »

Hi all,
Just wondering, met this girl at function on friday and turned out we were staying in the same hotel... We ended up talking in the bar for a few hours, had a lot of things in common, we hooked up and all was good. The following morning, we went our seperate ways, but left on good terms. One downer in her eyes is she is a few years older than me.

Have her number, made contact through facebook today just opened a chat about what we were on about on friday,maybe a bit vague in my contact but wanted to test if she would respond... no response so far. Not too worried as of yet.

not sure what i am looking for but would like to see if she was interested?

would i be better off to leave it as a one nighter

No I would say give it a shot anyway if things are cool on Facebook then nothing may come of it

The way I see it is at least you tried if you do like her
Is it the relationship you are looking for or what ?

killer kilbane

on facebook contact, didnt ask a question just mentioned something that happened after we went our seperate ways which i thought make open a conversation! she did accept the friend request so would i be better to ask something even if it is only how are you etc..

she is from a different part of the country so a relationship is too soon to push... would like to find out her plans, get to know her a bit more... she was obviously interested friday night

judgefudge

A year ago I had a one night stand with a guy I met in the pub. Still seeing him today so if you like the girl and there's a spark there go for it! She'll soon let you know if she's not interested and you'll have no regrets either way!

Good luck

December2012

Don't Facebook, phone her and talk to her.

You swapped bodily fluids, you can have a conversation.

Pippy1976

She gave you her number. Clearly she would like you to ring her. And please don't do the 'well Sunday is too soon, Monday seems too eager, Tuesday is ideal but I'll make her sweat a bit, Wednesday is cool and enough time between Friday and now' business.

It's all ludicrous. If you like her, phone her. This will eliminate having to ask for advice on the matter... she'll give you her answer herself.

Do it! And good luck.

Brego888

judgefudge wrote: »

A year ago I had a one night stand with a guy I met in the pub. Still seeing him today so if you like the girl and there's a spark there go for it! She'll soon let you know if she's not interested and you'll have no regrets either way!

Good luck

Not a one night stand then was it!

Katgurl

Just phone her, ask her how the weekend was and would she like to get together for a drink or whatever sometime.

Honestly i think fb has a lot to answer for in terms of messing up romances.

daisybelle2008

I'm not a fan of the ringing her. To be honest I would be a little freaked out if I got a phone call from a one not stand. Texting and Facebook is perfectly acceptable in this day and age.
Ringing is a bit overfamiliar tbh. Not everyone actually wants to have telephone conversations with people they have newly met...

blatantrereg

If I were you I would have texted rather than messaged on Facebook after being given her number. It is more personal. I would agree that an unannounced phone call might be unwelcome or intrusive.
I would read zero into your friend request being accepted, especially if she has a large number of friends on Facebook.
I would not follow up contact unless/until she responds.

killer kilbane

been texting last few days she said lets keep in touch but is not sure where she is at at the moment... opinions

blatantrereg

Cool your jets.

Eire_1992

She's obviously open to the idea of a relationship with you though...Keep the air clear at all times and something may come of it - with patience !!!

killer kilbane

been playing it cool and seen where it takes me... tbh not sure where i want it to go either so...lets see

Eire_1992

If its meant to be, its meant to be !! It's strange how things work out - the best relationships happen unexpectedly !

blatantrereg

It's not obvious to me that she's open to the idea of a relationship. I think it would be a bad idea to second guess her.

ted1

Does she make you smile?

All to gain nothing to lose.

killer kilbane

as i said not putting pressure on anything let it go down whatever road it goes... nothing ventured, nothing gained as they say

njs030

I don't think she's obviously interested in a relationship either!
Be cool op, she knows your interested now let her work on it.