friends with benefits

ifeelgood

I asked my friend does she want to be 'friends with benefits' she said no but i'm assuming that's because she's not atracted to me. Well she never said that, she went on about attachment but i think she was just being nice.

However it got me thinking does friends with benefits work. Has anyone tried it, what are the positives:) and negatives:eek:

DazMarz

Positives: bonus of being able to hang out, have fun and then some SERIOUS fun afterwards; you will care about each other, so you will want to make each other feel good and amazing, something you won't get from a random one night stand; none of the added stresses of being in a relationship.

Negatives: one person might want to make it into a relationship, but the other wants the status quo to remain; potential for awkwardness or even potential loss of friendship if things go pear-shaped; mixed messages and signals can lead to potential heartbreak after; potential for feelings of envy/jealousy if one of you finds a special someone and wants to end the friends-with-benefits arrangement to go into a relationship.

jaffacakesyum

As above - that's pretty much it!

Never thought I'd be into friends with benefits but would definitely be swayed at the moment :pac:

ifeelgood

DazMarz wrote: »

Positives: bonus of being able to hang out, have fun and then some SERIOUS fun afterwards; you will care about each other, so you will want to make each other feel good and amazing, something you won't get from a random one night stand; none of the added stresses of being in a relationship.

Negatives: one person might want to make it into a relationship, but the other wants the status quo to remain; potential for awkwardness or even potential loss of friendship if things go pear-shaped; mixed messages and signals can lead to potential heartbreak after; potential for feelings of envy/jealousy if one of you finds a special someone and wants to end the friends-with-benefits arrangement to go into a relationship.

those positives definitely outweigh the negatives, now just to find a friend lol

azezil

I think what I had was more of a fúck buddy arrangement, we never met bar on Friday nights when he'd call over to mine, we'd chat maybe watch a movie and shag. He'd spend the night, shag again in the morning shower and off he'd go. Went on for a couple of months till one Friday I wasn't available and I think was busy for a couple of weekends after that so it came to an end. *le sigh*

So uncomplicated and just what I needed, trying desperately to find that again this dating lark takes too much effort *grin*

oisindoyle

azezil wrote: »

I think what I had was more of a fúck buddy arrangement, we never met bar on Friday nights when he'd call over to mine, we'd chat maybe watch a movie and shag. He'd spend the night, shag again in the morning shower and off he'd go. Went on for a couple of months till one Friday I wasn't available and I think was busy for a couple of weekends after that so it came to an end. *le sigh*

So uncomplicated and just what I needed, trying desperately to find that again this dating lark takes too much effort *grin*

I presume you had a fone number for your f**k buddy ? why not give him a call and meet up again ,what have you got to lose ?

JupiterKid

I could do with a f*ck buddy arrangement these days.

No strings, no complications and I don't think I can muster the effort for a relationship at the moment but I still want the sex.:D:cool:

floggg

JupiterKid wrote: »

I could do with a f*ck buddy arrangement these days.

No strings, no complications and I don't think I can muster the effort for a relationship at the moment but I still want the sex.:D:cool:

I take it you have heard of Grindr, yea?

It's not exactly hard for a gay man to get laid these days (as long as your flexible on your standards)!

jaffacakesyum

floggg wrote: »

I take it you have heard of Grindr, yea?

It's not exactly hard for a gay man to get laid these days (as long as your flexible on your standards)!

Yeah I gotta admire gay men, my friend says on this Grindr thing he can go from chatting to someone to hooking up within minutes...I don't think there's a similar app for women.

floggg

jaffacakesyum wrote: »

Yeah I gotta admire gay men, my friend says on this Grindr thing he can go from chatting to someone to hooking up within minutes...I don't think there's a similar app for women.

It is something alright, but I don't know if "admire" is the word to use.

jaffacakesyum

floggg wrote: »

It is something alright, but I don't know if "admire" is the word to use.

Ah, well they've got some balls anyway :pac:

JH_raheny

only thing about grindr, gaydar etc.. is they have some sort of built in time machine because anytime you meet someone in person they have usually aged 10 years and gained at least a stone since you chatted to them only half an hour ago LOL

Barna77

jaffacakesyum wrote: »

Ah, well they've got some balls anyway :pac:

They come by default....

Anyway, it's easy to score using the likes of grinder, no big deal.

jaffacakesyum

Barna77 wrote: »

They come by default....

Anyway, it's easy to score using the likes of grinder, no big deal.

Yeah, not so easy for women...if you like attractive feminine women that is.

azezil

oisindoyle wrote: »

I presume you had a fone number for your f**k buddy ? why not give him a call and meet up again ,what have you got to lose ?

Ah it was a few years ago when I was living alone, he wouldn't come here now that I have a flatmate

oisindoyle

azezil wrote: »

Ah it was a few years ago when I was living alone, he wouldn't come here now that I have a flatmate

You never know unless u try
Or maybe give the flatmate a lash ........lol

azezil

oisindoyle wrote: »

You never know unless u try
Or maybe give the flatmate a lash ........lol

haha, not sure his GF would approve

Azure_sky

Friends with benefits, as in friends with unemployment benefits? As I've crap load of them.:pac: