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Am I overreacting

  • 03-05-2013 12:52pm
    #1
    afterglow
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 461 ✭✭


    Hi everyone

    I don't really know what I'm looking for here, all I know is that I need to vent right now.
    My mum still gets some of my social welfare to her address, namely a check from the HSE. I put this into the credit union monthly to pay off a loan and also save a bit which I have no bother doing as I borrowed it so need to pay it back of course.
    Now, this month's money was more than normal, and out of nowhere my mum just asks what I was going to give my dad for his birthday and will she keep some of the money so I don't have to worry about it.
    Then she asks what am I thinking of giving him, and I said, something like what I usually give everyone for birthdays. This is in and around 20 euro, 30 max as I am not employed at the moment.
    when I said this, my mum pipes up with "well he's 50" which implied that it wasn't enough. Then she says, what about 50, and well what could I say.
    If this were my mum and it was her 50th birthday I would have no problem, but my problem with giving this money to my dad is that he is not actually my dad. I found this out 2 years ago at this stage. I have no feelings toward him at all, due to things that went on in my childhood, he doesn't know this but my mum does and I think it extremely unfair that she still expects/railroads me into giving money especially as I'm on social welfare as well. I had things I could have used that money for, but as I said already I had no choice.
    now I am left feeling pissed off and annoyed at her. Most of the time I am treated as an inconvenience by most of the family but at times like this where money is involved I'm then just expected to act normal like all is okay and hand over money.
    What I am just wanting to know is am I over reacting?
    Opinions welcome and sorry for the length of the post
    Thanks for reading


Comments

  • #2
    Boombastic
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,496 ✭✭✭Boombastic


    Tell your mother she has no right to open your post and you will sort out your fathers present yourself.
    Update your address with the social welfare.


  • #3
    Big Bag of Chips
    Administrators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 14,914 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Big Bag of Chips


    All post should be going to where you are currently living. If your mother lodges the cheque to your credit union for you - you need to stop that. Have you bank account?

    You can set up a standing order or a direct debit from your bank account to the Credit Union to pay off your loan.

    Contact the Credit Union to find out what you need to do, they will send you out the forms. Then contact the social welfare office and give them your address.


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