Wife having surgery. Bricking it.

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This won't be a long post because I can't really string many words together in the current frame of mind. I met the love of my life while she was studying abroad in Ireland. We met through a mutual friend who asked me to meet up with her and show her where to avoid while she was living in Limerick and we just hit it off. I work for a US company and they kept asking me to move to the states but I kept saying no, until I fell head over heels for this girl. She moved back to America and I followed 4 weeks later. We got married and the rest is history.

We built our whole lives around each other. We live far away from her family in the states and we haven't made many friends. Anyway, she's having surgery in the morning to remove her gall bladder because she has gall stones. It's a fairly straightforward operation, but there are always risks associated with it. I'm a bag of nerves. Been fine up until about 20 minutes ago. I'm bricking it.

Positive thoughts and all that jazz. I don't know how surgeons do it I really don't. Sorry, just needed that get that off my chest.

Gatling

Thrust me my partner is waiting on the same operation ,I can't wait for her op,its better than feeling helpless when she has a vomiting and pain attacks due to stones ,
You have nothing to worry about chap your obviously in love with this woman and are afraid of what might happen perfectly natural ,

Deep breaths hold for 5 and relax helps

Catkins407

My father had his removed last year. He had a huge abscess on it so he had to have open surgery not keyhole. He is in his mid eighties frail with a serious heart condition. He flew through this surgery . Honestly your wife will be fine. It's straight forward and routine. Concentrate on beyond the surgery and getting her home to fuss over.

KKkitty

My future mother in law had it done and she was very sore and tired after it. Your wife will be fine. Give her some TLC after it. When she's better bring her out shopping or for a fancy dinner. Surgeons do these procedures all the time so it's second nature to them I guess.

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You're lovely people. Thank you.

Stavro Mueller

To add to the list, two of my cousins, a friend of a friend and a work colleague have all had it done in the past three or four years. They're all grand now. They were a bit sore at the start but had no complications or trouble getting over the procedure.

ted1

It's key hole surgery, very straight forward and routine, there's no need to worry

Neyite

A friend had emergency surgery on this two weeks ago, and she was up and about with minimal discomfort very soon after. She was also back at work after about 10 days.

LegacyUser

I had this op in my late 20's, to be honest I suffered more when the galstones where going into my duct than i did with the op and the after, very little scarring on my tummy aswell.

Im sure she will be grand Good luck

RossFixxxed

The others have said it, it is a routine and small proceedure. She will be ok, and I'm sure having someone as fiercely loving and concerned as you will make it even easier! You're clearly smitten and she's a lucky woman to have you there!

We'll be thinking of you, but you guys will be fine. Give her loads of love and an awkward hug on behalf of Boards (awkward cos we're from Boards)

username123

Its nearly worse being the person who isnt being operated on than the person who is - Ive been on both sides - not for gall bladder specifically but I know exactly what you mean. At least the person being operated on is asleep and they dont have to wait for it to be over.

Your wife will be grand and isnt it great that she is getting it sorted and will have a much improved quality of life afterwards? Its normal to be nervous but tbh, the stats of a bad thing happening in surgery compared to normal everyday things like driving are so low yet we drive all over the place without thinking about it!

Try not to worry and best of luck to you both.

miamee

I'm sure she will come through it with no problems. While she is recovering/in the operation, you should be planning how to celebrate and do nice things for her when it's over and she is well again. Though I have a feeling you might be the kind of person who does nice things for her anyway

Best of lukc to her and to you OP

Sleepy

As others have said, she'll be absolutely fine but maybe you should use this as a pointer that you both need a life outside of your relationship?

Accidents can and do happen and if you were hit by a bus in the morning, what kind of support network would your other half have?

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Thanks folks. She is in the best hospital in America, I'm sure she will be fine.

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Just met the surgeon. It went perfectly and she is in recovery. Thanks again folks!

username123

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Just met the surgeon. It went perfectly and she is in recovery. Thanks again folks!

Ah good stuff! Delighted to hear, you can relax now for a few minutes. Just a few minutes, then you got to be your wifes servant for the next little while during her recovery!!

RossFixxxed

Great news. Now go spoil the lady!

December2012

Happy news. Are you ok?

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Just met the surgeon. It went perfectly and she is in recovery. Thanks again folks!

Glad it all went well.

All the best to your lady in her recovery :cool:

As you no longer require advice, I'm going to lock the thread.