What do I do?

LegacyUser

Hi I'm going re reg for this...
Sorry for the long post but here it goes. My girlfriend dumped me just outta the blue about a month ago. The break lasted just over two weeks. When getting back together I discovered that her and her class mate were having more than just a good time. (She told me)
everytime there's a class party or group project where there always is a big argument I keep loosing the head. I can't bare the thought of her and him just being a classmate seeing as what's going on.iv asked her countless times to either cut him out of her life or else cut me out of her life but she keeps saying it wouldn't be fair on him and it would divide the class up they have a very small group...what do I do?
One day I feel like luckiest man on the planet the next I feel like a dagger has gone through me.

Lorna123

I would cool it if I were you. You are making way too much of this. If she wanted to be with this guy she would not have gotten back with you. So stop giving her ultimatums and stop acting jealous of this guy and even if you can't stop thinking about it then don't say anything to her about it or you will drive her away. So cool it. Don't mention him anymore and ignore it if she mentions him. She will tell you if she wants to break up with you and then you can get back on here and we will support you. Until then relax and enjoy the relationship.

Cupcake_Crisis

Do you trust that there's no longer anything going on between her and her classmate? If you don't trust her, you're in a dead end.

2Mad2BeMad

how about ya grow up abit first

sorry but your giving her ultimatums which is unfair for her

Its a small class, you said it yourself, she cant just ignore the chap the whole way through the year ( or how ever long she has left ) it would divide the class and cause an awkwardness which she doesnt want

your only back with her and your giving her an awfull time, i cant imagin you two being with each other the way your going about things,

yas were on a break, she had fun with someone else, she got back WITH YOU for a reason, so stop being jealous and stop trying to make her fight with you over nothing, other wise your next thread will be " girlfriend broke up with me "

LegacyUser

Hi,thanks for the feedback Lorna I do see where you are coming from...and i hve genuinly tried.
here's the deal I should have said it from the op but I didn't wanna let it get too long unreadable.there has been abit of history with this guy.basically she was going out with friends and not arriving back and I find out that shed have slept on "his couch"
Go back to the day she wanted a break she went to his gaff for a party with the class and got it on with and this happened for a solid two weeks.

Lorna123

reallylost wrote: »

Hi,thanks for the feedback Lorna I do see where you are coming from...and i hve genuinly tried.
here's the deal I should have said it from the op but I didn't wanna let it get too long unreadable.there has been abit of history with this guy.basically she was going out with friends and not arriving back and I find out that shed have slept on "his couch"
Go back to the day she wanted a break she went to his gaff for a party with the class and got it on with and this happened for a solid two weeks.

I can see how this would cause you to be anxious OP, but it looks like now she has had enough of this guy and is tired of him, so let it rest but if there are any further incidences that cause you doubts then maybe you should let her go free. If there was going to be anything with this guy she would not have gotten back with you. Time will tell how this plays out but in the meantime chill out.

omahaid

It would seem to me that if she dumped you out of the blue for only two weeks it was for the sole purpose of getting with this lad with a clear conscience. I don't see why the same won't happen again when she fancies someone else.

meeeeh

She is an idiot. Telling you she slept with him straight after you got back together was stupid. I don't think demanding to cut contact with him is reasonable but I can understand how hard it must be for you. You'll just have to trust her but tbh I can't see how the relationship would last.

strobe

OP, the you don't say why she dumped you out of the blue... Did she even give you an explanation? Did you ask her at the time, have you asked her since you got back together?

I don't like to be presumptuous about things like this but on the face of it it would seem to me that Omhaid could well be right. It sounds to me like she broke up with you to get with this guy, it didn't work out for whatever reason (him not being interested in more than a fling maybe) so she went back to you.

If that is the case I'd end it now and move on, it would mean you can't trust her and she's a bit of a massive massive bitch anyway.

But that's just how it reads on the surface, it may be miles off, but it's definitely how it seems.

What reasons did she give for ending things? What reasons did she give for wanting to get back together? How did she go about ending things exactly and how did she go about wanting to get back together exactly?