What is there to do??

carrotcake123

Hi all

This is prop a weird question (this is aimed at couples living together)

What do you's do when in the apartment together?

i ask this because I am living with my partner for nearly two years however only about 6/7 months ago we moved in to an apartment with just us (before we were sharing with my friends) but I am not a big tv fan so wouldn't watch much and he would happily spend 100% of his spare time on his computer. We dont have enough money to keep going out to do things and we watched majority of the films. I am afraid that im going to start getting really bored.

I did warn it was unusual question

Czarcasm

Carrotcake I wouldn't have thought it an unusual question in fairness.

Have ye tried having sex since ye moved in together?

NeonCookies

How about board games or jigsaws or cards? One night a week where you choose one of these activities! - It's something different anyway.

One thing my boyfriend and I liked to do (not living together now unfortunately ) was play online Trivial Pursuit! (We're not nerds, I swear - a game would take us houuuuuuurs!) Get in a bottle of wine / treat of your choice, and enjoy the night! For us, it was a great alternative to an actual date night when we couldn't afford to go out. As long as the two of you are enjoying the activity, interacting, and laughing together - then it's a success even if you don't leave the house!

With the nice weather coming in now, going for walks in the evenings and at the weekends is a nice way to get out of the apartment too.

Merkin

You can't have watched every film surely? I also think enjoying lots of sex is a good idea. Outside of that, find activities you both enjoy doing and indulge in that. If you don't have one then start! Scrabble is great. The Merkins love playing backgammon, it's an amazing game and many a happy hour has been whiled away doing that! Crosswords are really engaging too - good to sit down with a little vino and tackle a tough one together. Cooking together is good fun as well. And boxsets are always a favourite. Find a programme you both have intended to watch like The Wire for example and enjoy that together cuddled up.

Strip Poker

smash

How bizarre... Do you not even talk? You sound more like room mates than a couple!

carrotcake123

thanks for all your replies.!

Just to put it out, we do have lots of sex its just sex only takes up two hours or so. ah we do talk, its not THAT bad. I just wanted some other ideas on what other couples do living alone together.

I will try some board games or boxset or some activities like that.

Thank you again for your replies.

Have a baby, you will never, ever wonder what you have to do again.

carrotcake123

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Have a baby, you will never, ever wonder what you have to do again.

Haha Very good reply!!! ha

ShaShaBear

My BF and I made our own monopoly board out of a cardboard box from the shopping and some sheets of paper from one of my college hardbacks, as well as the money and cards! The three hours it took us to make it were simply hilarious, and we had three strong arguments about the correct colour of pencil to use for the expensive squares at the end

We both have computers, so we've started playing World of Warcraft together (26 per month for us both) and we have great fun levelling and questing together. There are a few Free to Play options there as well, if you're into gaming at all!

We regularly pick new TV shows to watch, and there are ENDLESS choices on Netflix! They're great, even more so than movies, because you can get excited about the next episode, talk about possible plot directions or flake out on the couch and watch an entire season cuddled up together!

We're buying a Wii tomorrow in Cex Exchange up North for £35 - my mum has loads of two-player games we're going to snatch when she's not looking!

I think the real key when living with someone (especially if you are both in the house together a lot) is not what you can do together, but what you can do alone. There can be a lot of tension in a situation where you're just sitting there huffing because he's on the PC ignoring you, or he's reading a book and hasn't even looked at you. Couples naturally tend to find stuff to do together when they're comfortable doing things apart.

Cupcake_Crisis

Do you have an xbox? Get rockband, seriously, hours of fun!!

Stavro Mueller

Do you not have any hobbies? When I'm not doing stuff with my partner I like to read, play the odd computer game, try different art and craft things, try new recipes, meet friends, go for walks etc.

Blisterman

I find the original question strange. What did you do to pass the time when you were single, and why is it any different?

Meller

Watch TV series - they last longer than films, there's more discussion generated (what's gonna happen next episode? What do you think of Lala? Can you believe Zongo died?!) and I find them more fun because you can get more involved over time and be excited about the new episode. I'd recommend Game of Thrones or The Walking Dead. Soaps are also a good choice, often because some are so silly they're enjoyable to watch and comment on.

Play games. Video games are GREAT if you can get into them, as well as board games, and also something more classic like chess - there's lots of strategy involved in that and you'll improve the more you play, so you can get really competitive! Games are great because you can either a) team up together and have fun solving something with one another or b) compete against one another, and healthy competition is a really nice thing in a relationship. You can also find quizzes online about various topics to test one another (funtrivia is a good site for this, got quizzes on almost every topic imaginable).

Cook or bake together! It's handy too, or you can just do lighter things like get ingredients to make up new cocktails, or smoothies or something.

Read books to each other. A nice thing to do before sleeping.

Teach each other something! Is there anything either of you is particularly interested in or knows a lot about? Teach the other! You can also learn something together - 'studying' a topic can be fun when you've got company and there's no pressure. My boyfriend and I love reading up online about random interesting parts of history together even though neither of us are particularly passionate about it. I'll generally just read aloud things to him and we'll talk about it, then maybe try find a film based on it or something.

Get a pet you can train and look after together (a rabbit or a rat if it's a small apartment). Almost like an extremely mini-child - it'll inspire a lot of 'together' things that you'll be obliged to do, and will enjoy doing.

Interior design? It can be fun to put effort into spicing up a room or something together. You can also build and make things together, from crafty, artistic things to DIY like a bookcase or something; it's fun to have those 'projects' to work on together and the internet can provide you with step by step instructions for everything nowadays!

Plan events! Plan to have people over, even if it's only something small. But put effort into it! It doesn't have to be expensive or over the top. Just give the event a theme or premise and then work on it together, come up with ideas and get excited about them. I love doing this with my boyfriend, even though we're not constantly throwing parties, we're always coming up with ideas about the next thing we can do and brainstorming. We even do this alone sometimes, putting aside days to have, for example, a marathon of the Lord of the Rings films and immersing ourselves in the spirit of the day in every way possible. Generating enthusiasm for simple things can do wonders.

Go on walks, or volunteer together walking dogs at a local animal shelter or something.

jdsk2006

Oh my gosh, I simply could not imagine being a young couple with no kids wondering how to spend your time!!

Just to put things into a little perspective for ya here is a list of things hubby and I don't get the time to do anymore (with kids and work it can be hectic)
A day cycling round the countryside sightseeing and a picnic
Workout together
Kayaking
Bowling
Camping (we do this once a year now with 4 kids in tow.).

...........catch my point????

wallycharlo

carrotcake123 wrote: »

... What do you's do when in the apartment together? ...

I know it's not actually in your appartment, but have you considered doing something like an evening course together, say a couple of nights a week? You could get a brochure / prospectus and have a flick through it together, you may be suprised at finding something of common interest which may not be obvious at first.

carrotcake123 wrote: »

... its just sex only takes up two hours or so ...

:rolleyes::D

ibarelycare

Blisterman wrote: »

I find the original question strange. What did you do to pass the time when you were single, and why is it any different?

I think that's a bit unfair. It's a big step going from being in a relationship and seeing each other a few times a week, to living together. The OP sounds like she wants to make sure that the relationship doesn't get too dull or that they don't get complacent with each other.


OP I would definitely try and pick up a few things that you can do outside the home a couple of times a week. At least that way you're not living in each other's pockets every evening. I can't really add much more to the good advice already given!

Blisterman

Ok, fair enough. I had interpreted the question as being "How do I occupy myself when my BF is spending time on the computer"

Still, I would definitely suggest finding things you can do by yourself. You appreciate your time together more when you're not in each others pockets all the time.

NicsM

When my ex and I lived together we were both broke so proper expensive dates were out of the question.

We used to bake together and it was so much fun, looking up recipes, shopping for ingredients and then the actual baking (and enjoying the results!)

Cycling is a great option, get yourself cheap bikes and go out whenever you can.

And even joining a class/taking up a sport by yourself is a good idea-you're out of the house one evening a week and learning something new.