How to let him go

krametsi

Ok here's my sort of dilemma.
Been dating this guy for over a year now...ohh he's such a nice lovely guy, loving too...the thing now is I just don't feel him, its just not there, no matter how great the sex is between us..just not getting/feeling that intimate, emotional attraction at all... It's even worse, its torture for me to say I LOVE YOU... I normally would respond by saying.."me too" and would feel bad about it afterwards..
He loves me dearly..How do I break it to him that "dude this is not working for me"..how do I do it without being the bad bitch who broke his heart?
everything is good between us..well in his own world, because we hardly ever fight, never argue, he even talks about marriage in future, that I am THE ONE...don't know how many excuses i've made in meeting his parents...

Honestly i'd be lying if i say i love him, but what i like about him is that he's a good guy,and deserves sum1 who can love him better..just am not the One...
How do i break it out to him that way???? confused.

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Czarcasm

OP just tell him, you don't have to make a big deal of it. I'll be honest, it sounds like he has a clue already which is why he's, well, quite literally smothering you with affection and talking about plans for marriage and the whole lot. It's a distraction technique to make you feel exactly the way you feel right now.

I think you just need to take this one on the chin and chalk it down to experience. You'll only make yourself feel worse the longer you have to carry on the facade. You're by no means a bad bitch just because you tell a guy "look, it's not me, it's you!". Maybe it'll help him to see that he can't fake it either.

The fact you never argue is because you're both unwilling to talk about the big white elephant in the room that just is that ye're not meant for each other and it's just not working out, and your boyfriend is going out of his way to over-compensate for the lack of chemistry by smothering you and giving you all these future plans, draw you in further by meeting the parents.

He's laying on the guilt trip thick with a trowel OP and it might be the best thing you do for both him and yourself if you break up with him as soon as you see him again rather than putting it off while he pushes you more and more into a relationship you don't want to be in.

krametsi

Wow! thanx hey...u know neva saw it that way on the 'over-compensating'...but yeah i guess he is kind of aware...
i mean really cos i hardly care about where he goes,no matter how late it is or with whom...he'll go away 4 a wknd with his buddies and i'll neva even question it... nor even show a bit of that 'girlfriend jealousy'...

Geomy

I wish I had an easy going laid back girlfriend, he was lucky to have ya.

I always end up with the possessive types,and end up off into the sunset :-)

Just be honest with him, he could be feeling the same way....

Your sanity and peace of mind is more important.