Use alcohol to socialise

LegacyUser

im a shy type of guy and feel anytime i meet up with friends that i need alcohol or they will find me boring, i just feel really paranoid and boring if im not haveing a drink the alcohol makes me come out and have a laugh but when i dont drink i struggle to even make conversation without stuttering or going red, but now i want to give the booze a miss any tips on how to be more out going and fun without the demon drink?!

blatantrereg

Stop caring so much about what people think. It's nice to be nice and engage, but it's not good to feel pressure to be entertaining. Just relax and don't worry about getting approval. It doesn't matter if you stutter or go red. That will go away if you don't worry about it. You'll get used to socialising while sober if you do it more often.

judgefudge

Are these close mates?

I usually find when I'm at a party and sober it's just as easy to have a laugh than when I'm drinking (and I'm a shy enough person). I think the reason why is because I can remind myself that everyone around me is drinking. And generally when others are drinking they're not sitting around scrutinising you, they tend to be quite chatty and open, just wanting to have a good time.

I don't know if that helps but that has been my experience in the past. Just bear in mind that rarely other people are thinking about what you do as much as you think about it!

LegacyUser

yeah they would be close friends, i find if we meet other times when where not drinking im stuck for conversation but when we go on nights out im usually the most out going person after drink, then sometimes id cancel meeting up so i dont have to face them when im sober i know it sounds crazy and all, im just an awkward type of person