where to take it with this girl?

EdenHazard

Ok first off i'm like the shyest guy ever so it makes stuff like this real difficult for me. Basically there is this girl, she is amazingly good looking, like seriously :eek: she's the type of girl that i think i could get attract(not big headed but just when you hear enough compliments you have to get over any inferiority complexes you have) but with my personality a chance with this kinda girl doesn't come around that often. She's from abroad and has gone back to where she lives after just being here for weekend. When she was here we kissed the night before she left. Thing is her interest has sustained. I've only been talking to her on Twitter because I'm scared to talk on FB with her(what to say? sustaining conversation) but my sister who is her friend(reason she was here) says that she 'over the top' thinks your good looking so the opportunity is there for me. but how realistic is it? i've never had a girlfriend before or come closer to having one. its just my luck that the first girl whom i attracted to lives abroad, but i dunno i think it could be worth it. Just opinions on what I should do?

i really feel if i don't do something i'll regret it.

Lorna123

Personally I don't see much point in pursuing this if this girl lives abroad. What you can do is just enjoy the compliments which might give you enough confidence to pursue someone who lives in this country.

desbrook

Lorna123 wrote: »

Personally I don't see much point in pursuing this if this girl lives abroad. What you can do is just enjoy the compliments which might give you enough confidence to pursue someone who lives in this country.

Very true. This forum is full of the difficulties of long distance relationships . That's older people with experience - and still it's hard! You know now that you have what it takes to attract someone you previously thought was out of your leauge . Keep your feet on the ground of course but there will be others ... and soon

EdenHazard

Best case scenario what could happen?
Is it that impossible for it to work out? I'm sure though more solid relationships have struggled let alone one that is really just based on thinking the other is hot so yeah I get where your coming from? What gets me with this girl is that I kinda like the fact her opinion is so high, its like when my sister tells her 'he thinks your hot' she doesn't believe that I do. I don't know how to 'pull' girls through words so for me its all down to my looks. To have a girl so into me without me having to go through pickup lines and stuff, its basically like my dream scenario.

If its anything I'll be a bit closer to her this summer as I'm going Spain for entire summer, she's from south of France.

Just my luck

Esoteric_

Okay, we can't tell you how it'll work out but here's a few questions -

IF something were to happen, can you and she afford to fly regularly to see each other? By regularly, I mean at least once or twice every two months.

Would you be willing and able to relocate to her country? Would you find work there? Or vice versa?

If the answer to these are no, then it's probably not going to work. You have to be able to see each other and make plans for the future if it's going to be sustainable long term.

Meauldsegosha

EdenHazard wrote: »

Best case scenario what could happen?
Is it that impossible for it to work out? I'm sure though more solid relationships have struggled let alone one that is really just based on thinking the other is hot.

Best case scenario is you fall madly in love and live happily ever after. But realistically OP you can't even send this girl a message on Facebook, how can you expect to begin and maintain a relationship with her??

You say you have never had a girlfriend before so take the confidence boost this girl has given you and use that to meet someone.

Stavro Mueller

Another question to ask yourself. Are you sure you won't start feeling paranoid or jealous if she sends you a text that seems "colder" than usual? Or if she starts mentioning a male friend she has been hanging around with? Or she goes on a wild night out with the girls and you don't hear from her for a few days. All things that can in real life be perfectly innocent but can take on a sinister meaning if you're feeling insecure.

EdenHazard

Meauldsegosha wrote: »

Best case scenario is you fall madly in love and live happily ever after. But realistically OP you can't even send this girl a message on Facebook, how can you expect to begin and maintain a relationship with her??

You say you have never had a girlfriend before so take the confidence boost this girl has given you and use that to meet someone.

That's my dilemma with basically every girl

ABajaninCork

Sometimes, you have to take a leap of faith. My now husband and I had a LDR. He was in Ireland, me in London. It was hard going, but we Skyped every day, phoned when we couldn't Skype and made sure to see each other either in Cork or London at least every six weeks or so.

We're now married and living here in Ireland. I won't lie and say it's been plain sailing, because it wasn't. But you have to decide this is what you want and really work on it TOGETHER.

Having said that OP. What do YOU want? And how hard do you want to work to get it?

daisybelle2008

OP, you are going to be spending the summer in Spain, hold off on this girl. You will have loads of opportunities there. And the language barrier will mean less reliance on conversation and words(which you don't like). You will be relying more on your looks and the language of love which will suit you. It will be the making of you

EdenHazard

Yo, update: So got pretty close with this girl, we talk for hours and we have so much in common and we just what you call hit it off. We're open about what we think and its basically this could be something if we weren't in different countries but the fact we continue to talk maybe it means we both just don't wanna rest it at that.
This girl is awesome, so good looking but such a great personality as well. When I say good looking she's actually knock out gorgeous so its not as if opportunities like this come around every day of the week. But it does seem like its right person, wrong time scenario. I've never got so personal with a girl before, so in a lot of ways this is such a big deal for me.

Meauldsegosha

EdenHazard wrote: »

Yo, update: So got pretty close with this girl, we talk for hours and we have so much in common and we just what you call hit it off. We're open about what we think and its basically this could be something if we weren't in different countries but the fact we continue to talk maybe it means we both just don't wanna rest it at that.
This girl is awesome, so good looking but such a great personality as well. When I say good looking she's actually knock out gorgeous so its not as if opportunities like this come around every day of the week. But it does seem like its right person, wrong time scenario. I've never got so personal with a girl before, so in a lot of ways this is such a big deal for me.

That's great OP.

EdenHazard

Haha well just wanted to give an update