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Eternal Bachelor

  • 20-04-2013 10:51pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I'm 33 years old [my Jesus year]
    I'v only had 2 serious relationships one ended when i was 22 because she told me she no longer loved me [shortly after i lost a very close aunt] and one that ended when i was 27 [she committed suicide after we had a miscarage]

    My last relationship was in 09 and i left her because she was a coke-head and a drama queen. I haven't so much as kissed a girl since.

    I know im overweight but iv stared to lose it since feb [im down 20lbs so far,now 18st]
    But my biggest hurdle is self confidence,i feel no woman would want me as im ugly with a small cock.

    By the time i feel confidant around a girl im in the friends zone and there's no returning from there.
    All my friends are younger then me and all of them are in long term relationships.

    All i want is someone to love and share my life with.

    I know im a being a Pig and have double standers by saying im not attracted to +size girls or those with D,DD brests but i just dont find them arousing i find geeky girls or those with more realistic breast sizes atractive.

    Iv tryed The Meeting Point ect but i never get msgs from anyone i also tried signals nights with no success.
    Should i just accept i will never find someone to share my life with


Comments

  • #2
    ivytwine
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,114 ✭✭✭ivytwine


    First off, no wonder you have stayed away from relationships after past experiences. Your ex took her own life? How did you deal with this? Do you feel that the past is holding you back in someway?

    Second of all, yes it's ok to have a type, but ask yourself where has the type got you before? Be honest. Are you being too picky? Only you can answer that. Are there girls that could have deserved another chance?

    And finally, DDs are actually rather small by current standards, boob sizes are increasing all the time :P


  • #3
    MissFlitworth
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,057 ✭✭✭MissFlitworth


    No hope wrote: »
    Should i just accept i will never find someone to share my life with

    Jesus no, why would you do that? 33 is young,don't write off your potential to love & be loved just yet.

    I'm so sorry to hear about your partner, that must have been a dog rough, horrible time for you. Have you ever had bereavement counselling? You sound a little lost, it might help to talk to someone.

    It's a hoary old cliche but one of the least attractive qualities anyone can have is to be really down on themselves. Weight and perceived lack of good looks be damned, if you hate yourself it radiates out of you. It can also make you seem like you'd be a lot of hard work in a relationship (or potentially that you'd be WAY over-grateful to meet someone & that might translate into clingyness) so sort that out & it's half the battle. You've been in 3 relationships so you're clearly not a monster & people have found you attractive before, try relax a bit, it can & will happen for you again.


  • #4
    RubyRoss
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 302 ✭✭RubyRoss


    Remember that those women did go with you so why would you think more women won't. Have you tried going to groups or clubs that involve activities you like - so you can meet someone with a common interest/similiar attitude?


  • #5
    ash23
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,791 ✭✭✭ash23


    I don't think you're going to be able to attract a functioning person unless you work on yourself. And I don't mean your weight. Your lack of self confidence is going to turn any woman off unless she is somewhat troubled.

    You've been through a lot but a woman can't fix you. Only you can fix you. Go to your GP and have a chat about your lack of confidence and how it is affecting your life. They might be able to advise you.

    But if a woman is content and happy in her own life, has friends and confidence etc, she will want a man who is equally happy and content and confident.

    The only way for you to have a healthy relationship is to be healthy and again, I don't mean physically.


  • #6
    Ickle Magoo
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