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Family member - Domestic violence

  • 18-04-2013 9:19am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    A family member has been physically assaulted by her boyfriend recently.

    I do not know whether or not she wants to press charges.
    If she does not, I still think she should have the assault on record.

    Does anyone know if it is possible to report the assault to the gardaí even if she does not want to press charges?
    If anyone even has a link to a site that can provide the answer I would be grateful, searching on the internet has not given any good results.


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  • #2
    Ickle Magoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    There is lots of info regarding the reporting/investigation process on the An Garda Síochána site HERE.

    While I agree any domestic violence/assault should be reported as a matter of course - I would also stress to her that the logic behind doing so is to compile evidence against him because you are working to the sad and scary assumption that he's almost certainly going to do it AGAIN.

    All the best OP.


  • #3
    Merkin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,230 ✭✭✭Merkin


    I agree with Ickle. Being keen to put it on record without pressing charges is working off the assumption that it will happen again. That is no way to live.

    I'd urge her to contact her local http://www.womensaid.ie/ as a matter of urgency and ask their advice on what her next steps should be.

    Perpetrators of domestic violence rarely strike just once unfortunately. Can you urge her to leave her partner OP? It's a good thing that she opened up to you and told you, plenty of victims don't.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
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    Thanks for the information and links.

    As far as I know, that's the end of the relationship.


  • #5
    Merkin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,230 ✭✭✭Merkin


    anon232323232323 wrote: »
    Thanks for the information and links.

    As far as I know, that's the end of the relationship.

    Good.


  • #6
    ABajaninCork
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,411 ✭✭✭ABajaninCork


    I hope so. Your relative should run and not look back. If physical, emotional or verbal violence is used once, it'll be used again. Could be weeks, months or years. But it'll happen again. Trust me on that one.


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  • #7
    kylith
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,737 ✭✭✭✭kylith


    Even if the relationship is over I would encourage her to report the incident because it will then be on record should he assault a future partner.


  • #8
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Merkin wrote: »
    ...............Perpetrators of domestic violence rarely strike just once unfortunately. Can you urge her to leave her partner OP? It's a good thing that she opened up to you and told you, plenty of victims don't.

    I don't know.
    I'm 26 and I admit that when I was 20-21 I had anger issues and I hit my GF on several occasions. I'm very ashamed of it. One one occasion slaps were exchanged back and forth. But I grew out of it and learned to manage anger an frustration better.
    We are still together for long term and very happy.


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