Where to go on a date?

astonaidan

Ok Im going to ask out a girl in galway and Im not sure where to go, anyone know where to go.
Must add I dont want to go to dinner, was thinking of asking her to go for a walk down the Prom?

snubbleste

Buy her a cadbury twirl, then go for the prom in gale-force winds...

MadYaker

I would reconsider your decision not to go for dinner. Whatever you do don't take her to the cinema. Maybe just go for a drink somewhere?

Seaneh

Aquarium and walk on the prom is a nice date.

biko

Weather isn't great, maybe a walk from Born down to Wolfe Tone along the river? Then a hot coco in Cupán Tae? Girls love Cupán Tae.

doubleglaze

If you know each other well, then a walk in Barna Woods is more sheltered.

She'd be battered by winds on the Prom - not very romantic unless she's the hardy outdoors type.

A drink in a more private corner of a nice, quiet, warm bar afterwards, where you are both side by side rather than facing each other.

Good luck!

gordongekko

doubleglaze wrote: »

where you are both side by side rather than facing each other.

Good luck!

are you saying he's ugly?

_Whimsical_

I think the prom could be a nice idea but it very much depends on the kind of girl she is. If she's the fashionista type likely to turn up to every first date in heels and with immaculate hair that she's slaved over with the straighteners then the prom is not for her on day one. It does happen. I've definitely seen prom first dates with a casual looking man and way over dressed girl who looks like she should be going somewhere fancy but she's instead tottering along at Blackrock trying to hold her hair in place.

The Aquarium could be nice followed by coffee in the cafe there and you could see if she's up for a walk afterwards. I love Bikos idea of the Wolf Tone walk and the Cupan Tae afterwards too.

Galway really needs something like a cool museum for these kind of situations. Something indoor, that's not drinking or eating or bowling, that offers something to make conversation about and feels casual. Do we actually have anywhere like that ?

ben.schlomo

doubleglaze wrote: »

If you know each other well, then a walk in Barna Woods is more sheltered.

She'd be battered by winds on the Prom - not very romantic unless she's the hardy outdoors type.

A drink in a more private corner of a nice, quiet, warm bar afterwards, where you are both side by side rather than facing each other.

Good luck!

Take someone you dont know very well for a 'walk in the woods', i assume thats a wind up?

kerry4sam

astonaidan wrote: »

Ok Im going to ask out a girl in galway and Im not sure where to go, anyone know where to go.
Must add I dont want to go to dinner, was thinking of asking her to go for a walk down the Prom?

Ah I'd a lovely 3rd date up in Galway City last Summer but weather was not as bad as it is these days.

Started with drinks in some auld-fashioned pure country pub (lost for name) and dinner afterward was real nice. We knew each other somewhat well before hand so dinner was lovely and conversation just flowed. How well do you know each other or have in common with each other?

I've a curious mind so we did walk the promenade and explore the City somewhat also, patience of a saint so he had!

Drinks would be advisable & would reduce inhibitions or nerves.

Depends really - 1st date? Know each other well? Time allowed, are their time constraints or evening/night date planned or being thought of? Promenade is really nice, but not if the weather is dodgy.

Oh! You said you are going to ask her out - Hope she says yes!

astonaidan

Hah probably should have said, i had planned on it being like next thursday or friday. I do understand not heading out there tomorrow:o
Thing about dinners is that I totally hate them, it really knocks me out of my stride.
Going to look into Cupan Tea and then claim it as my own original idea :eek:

swiftman

ask her out first before making plans. SOME galway girls are fussy about going on dates this time of year as they prefer to be single and have there freedom during the summer, FACT!

howyanow

I would also recommend Salthill.Like others say,Aquarium,Seapoint,Prom,Crazy golf if weather improves plus Coffee and light bite in one of many cafes (coco i would go to) or early meal plus wine in the Black Cat.
good luck

McTigs

kerry4sam wrote: »

Ah I'd a lovely 3rd date up in Galway City last Summer but weather was not as bad as it is these days.

Started with drinks in some auld-fashioned pure country pub (lost for name) and dinner afterward was real nice. We knew each other somewhat well before hand so dinner was lovely and conversation just flowed. How well do you know each other or have in common with each other?

I've a curious mind so we did walk the promenade and explore the City somewhat also, patience of a saint so he had!

You must know men have endless patience when there is even the slightest chance of the ride

astonaidan

swiftman wrote: »

ask her out first before making plans. SOME galway girls are fussy about going on dates this time of year as they prefer to be single and have there freedom during the summer, FACT!

I never even thought about this tbh, I understand like teens thinking like this but didnt even cross my mind about a 23year old. Guess Ill have to be even more charming :mad:

UrbanSea

Buy 2 flaggons and twelve cans to share and head to that green in front of the eye cinema, there are rocks that are over looking the bay where you can drink without being seen by walkers as it's slightly below grass level. Very romantic

Mrs OBumble

swiftman wrote: »

ask her out first before making plans. SOME galway girls are fussy about going on dates this time of year as they prefer to be single and have there freedom during the summer, FACT!

Sheesh, it's a date he's asking for, not her hand in marriage!

bonzodog2

UrbanSea wrote: »

Buy 2 flaggons and twelve cans to share and head to that green in front of the eye cinema, there are rocks that are over looking the bay where you can drink without being seen by walkers as it's slightly below grass level. Very romantic

Choose your time carefully, there's a dreadful stink off the mud when the tide is low in the lough.

Wompa1

astonaidan wrote: »

I never even thought about this tbh, I understand like teens thinking like this but didnt even cross my mind about a 23year old. Guess Ill have to be even more charming :mad:

HaHa..Welcome to Irish dating. It doesn't really exist. A lot of 23 year old girls will not have been brought on a proper date, ever. If you met her in a night club I'd be thinking the above...if she's in college too.

If you got one of the few that has gone on dates, it's tough to be original in Galway. She likely has been brought to the date friendly places already. What I'm saying is, you can't win.

Sadderday

Do a cooking lesson together for a giggle and a feed

Russian Blue

Funderland is in galway next week. Take her for the ride of her life.

donmeister

Russian Blue wrote: »

Funderland is in galway next week. Take her for the ride of her life.

...and then bring her to Funderland.

_Whimsical_

I feel like we all have a vested interest now, can we all come ? Or follow behind casually and see how things are going?

Redhairedguy

A good auld fashioned stalk is healthy for building a strong community. Albeit online.

astonaidan

_Whimsical_ wrote: »

I feel like we all have a vested interest now, can we all come ? Or follow behind casually and see how things are going?

I think it would be weird if ye didnt come along, Lets all have a date next thursday in Galway

desaparecidos

swiftman wrote: »

ask her out first before making plans. SOME galway girls are fussy about going on dates this time of year as they prefer to be single and have there freedom during the summer, FACT!

"Freedom".... taking it from all angles?

Galway2013

I would suggest paint balling but have a bad aim. Woman love inflicting pain on us men

Galwayguy35

OP why not just meet up in a pub for a coffee/ drink, first dates aren't really dates as such, more of a meeting to see how 2 people will get on.

If it goes well and she likes you then the second date is the one to put some thought into.

keesa

Don't bring her to a pub as the whole first date! Doesn't give the impression that you care about her much! I think you could make a really fun, romantic, and low pressure date out of Salthill. Go to the aquarium, then get a coffee(or icecream- the galleon do really good sundaes for 5.50 I think) could then if the weather is ok, walk back into town by the prom holding hands perhaps, or go to a bar in salthill. There are some really nice ones there that aren't pub-ish like the oslo or somewhere. Then seal the deal with a kiss at the end of the night I know I'd like a date like that

astonaidan

Just to update how badly this plan went.
Went out with her on the student night and just couldnt get her alone
Old Scottish guy cockblocked me all night, one of the lads later telling me he was saying" if he wasnt getting her neither was I"
Took the cowards way of asking her out by text a couple of days later and understandably she didnt reply

3fullback

astonaidan wrote: »

Just to update how badly this plan went.
Went out with her on the student night and just couldnt get her alone
Old Scottish guy cockblocked me all night, one of the lads later telling me he was saying" if he wasnt getting her neither was I"
Took the cowards way of asking her out by text a couple of days later and understandably she didnt reply

Scottish guy ? Let me guess you were in the Hole in the wall ?

astonaidan

3fullback wrote: »

Scottish guy ? Let me guess you were in the Hole in the wall ?

Worse, we went to Karma:o
First & Last time in that fine establishment

biko

Don't worry about it, ring her in a few days and have one of the ideas in this thread lined up. Perhaps she got angry because you brought her to a boozer on a first date.

Mrs OBumble

astonaidan wrote: »

Just to update how badly this plan went.
Went out with her on the student night and just couldnt get her alone

Ahh, if it's a date, then by definition it should be to a place where your mates aren't around.

Now if this woman thought she was out with you specifically, and then paid attention to someone else who happened to be there, when she's just plain rude and you shouldn't waste any more time on her.

But it it was just being out with a group of friends, then that's *not* a date ... better luck next time.

_Whimsical_

Mrs OBumble wrote: »

Now if this woman thought she was out with you specifically, and then paid attention to someone else who happened to be there, when she's just plain rude and you shouldn't waste any more time on her.

But it it was just being out with a group of friends, then that's *not* a date ... better luck next time.

I agree here, if she thought she was exclusively out with you at your request she should've been paying most attention to you. Also not replying to your text sounds a little childish. Give her a ring and if a second try works out then great, if not you might be dodging a bullet.

astonaidan

biko wrote: »

Don't worry about it, ring her in a few days and have one of the ideas in this thread lined up. Perhaps she got angry because you brought her to a boozer on a first date.

Mrs OBumble wrote: »

Ahh, if it's a date, then by definition it should be to a place where your mates aren't around.

Now if this woman thought she was out with you specifically, and then paid attention to someone else who happened to be there, when she's just plain rude and you shouldn't waste any more time on her.

But it it was just being out with a group of friends, then that's *not* a date ... better luck next time.

_Whimsical_ wrote: »

I agree here, if she thought she was exclusively out with you at your request she should've been paying most attention to you. Also not replying to your text sounds a little childish. Give her a ring and if a second try works out then great, if not you might be dodging a bullet.

Sorry it was part of a student night, after our last exam. I had planned on asking her out at it as she spent two weeks trying to get me to go :mad:

Mrs OBumble

Dont put too many details here, shes probably reading!

keesa

Just to be clear, did you specifically ask her out to the student thing, or did you just go, and she also went? If so then it doesn't count. I wouldn't really bring someone to Karma for a date... You have to be careful about not making it seem you just want to have sex with her.

Boards beers

_Whimsical_

astonaidan wrote: »

Sorry it was part of a student night, after our last exam. I had planned on asking her out at it as she spent two weeks trying to get me to go :mad:

Well nothing bad has happened so. You just didn't get around to it. She should've responded to your text though, the only person that doesn't reflect well on is her. I'd say you can either take the silence as a no or try once more .If you do, give her a ring or drop round and ask her.

Good luck. If she doesn't say yes she's missing out, you've gone to lots of effort,you sound pretty decent. There'll be someone else along who appreciates you if it's not this girl .

ben.schlomo

_Whimsical_ wrote: »

Well nothing bad has happened so. You just didn't get around to it. She should've responded to your text though, the only person that doesn't reflect well on is her. I'd say you can either take the silence as a no or try once more .If you do, give her a ring or drop round and ask her.

Good luck. If she doesn't say yes she's missing out, you've gone to lots of effort,you sound pretty decent. There'll be someone else along who appreciates you if it's not this girl .

Stalker much? 'Hi im the guy whose text you didnt respond to, now im at your door asking you if you will go out with me?' sounds like a plan alright. OP she sounds like shes either up herself or just not interested, id move on.

_Whimsical_

ben.schlomo wrote: »

Stalker much? 'Hi im the guy whose text you didnt respond to, now im at your door asking you if you will go out with me?' sounds like a plan alright. OP she sounds like shes either up herself or just not interested, id move on.

Oh ,myself I'd probably avoid someone over the not replying incident.

I am just hoping on the OPs behalf that it's a text gone astray or something. If he's unsure the best way to get proper closure is just to ask straight out and risk a no to the face.:o

swiftman

sounds like the girl turned down the invite to the date (not replying to the text).

it sounds like it was her idea to go to karma and it wasnt a date and she 100% didnt think it was a date.
maybe the text took her by surprise being asked out by, 1) a text message and 2) being asked out after what sounds like a bad time in karma with the scottish guy.

astonaidan

keesa wrote: »

Just to be clear, did you specifically ask her out to the student thing, or did you just go, and she also went? If so then it doesn't count. I wouldn't really bring someone to Karma for a date... You have to be careful about not making it seem you just want to have sex with her.

Sorry will be clearer, it was a planned student night for our class, where we as a group went out for drinks, I dont think I come across as wanting to have sex

swiftman wrote: »

sounds like the girl turned down the invite to the date (not replying to the text).

it sounds like it was her idea to go to karma and it wasnt a date and she 100% didnt think it was a date.
maybe the text took her by surprise being asked out by, 1) a text message and 2) being asked out after what sounds like a bad time in karma with the scottish guy.

Yeah I figured that, the night in Karma wasnt a date, I had planned on asking her that night before we went clubbing but couldnt due to Scottish guy but it was still a good night out, just everytime we were alone he came from nowhere to stop it.

Alas it wasnt meant to be

doubleglaze

Is there any chance she didn't receive your text? Maybe she has lost her phone, etc...?

keesa

Any chance you'll see her again in college or something? You could just bring the text up in conversation and see what she thinks.

Nuggles

doubleglaze wrote: »

Is there any chance she didn't receive your text? Maybe she has lost her phone, etc...?

Oh don't open up that crazy door. Crazy women talk.

She got the text, didn't reply because she wasn't interested and is too much of a coward and doesn't have the decency to say so.