What's wrong with me?

LegacyUser

Hi not sure what's wrong with me at the moment. Feel very down, extremely stressed in work, lost a close family member to suicide last year and I think I'm only really starting to deal with this now or Come to terms with how it has affected me?
I'm goin to the doc for an unrelated matter at the end of the week and I'm considering talking to her about how I'm feeling but it's hard to put into words. I know my grief is one thing and then work related stress is really causing me to have serious problems - its affecting me ALL the time to the point that I dread going in. I have tried to talk to work about it but they don't listen / make empty promises about things gettin better just to appease me.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. What do I say to doc? What's her probable reaction going to be?
Thanks

looksee

Say pretty well what you have said here - though sometimes doctors take exception to you bringing up another topic when you are there for something else. Ask if you should make another appointment or can you mention it now.

What they say really depends on the doctor. Hopefully they will listen and offer some advice and/or medication. There is a lot of nonsense talked on here about medication, if you are offered something for a while do take the doctor's advice, it may be all you need to put you on the level again, though it does take a while to work.

m r c

Striped pyjamas wrote: »

Hi not sure what's wrong with me at the moment. Feel very down, extremely stressed in work, lost a close family member to suicide last year and I think I'm only really starting to deal with this now or Come to terms with how it has affected me?
I'm goin to the doc for an unrelated matter at the end of the week and I'm considering talking to her about how I'm feeling but it's hard to put into words. I know my grief is one thing and then work related stress is really causing me to have serious problems - its affecting me ALL the time to the point that I dread going in. I have tried to talk to work about it but they don't listen / make empty promises about things gettin better just to appease me.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. What do I say to doc? What's her probable reaction going to be?
Thanks

No 1 thing is they hear this/far worse all the time so don't be in any way nervous or slow to bring it up.

Thankfully I haven't lost someone close recently so I don't mean to sound like I understand your situation, I guess it must be very tough.

Problems are best dealt with one at a time in my experience and if I were you I think I'd like to speak with someone about your recent loss maybe help you understand more about how it's affecting you.

Start with your GP, make sure they get how your currently feeling she will be much better than anyone who could reply here.

My sympathy s on your recent loss and I'm hoping you start to feel better v soon.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

Striped pyjamas wrote: »

Hi not sure what's wrong with me at the moment. Feel very down, extremely stressed in work, lost a close family member to suicide last year and I think I'm only really starting to deal with this now or Come to terms with how it has affected me?
I'm goin to the doc for an unrelated matter at the end of the week and I'm considering talking to her about how I'm feeling but it's hard to put into words. I know my grief is one thing and then work related stress is really causing me to have serious problems - its affecting me ALL the time to the point that I dread going in. I have tried to talk to work about it but they don't listen / make empty promises about things gettin better just to appease me.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. What do I say to doc? What's her probable reaction going to be?
Thanks

Absolutely tell the doc.

It's very possible that the causes of your physical illness are manifesting from your mental stress, so she'll need to know for that reason. She's probably had similar cases before and may be able to refer you to a good counsellor specific to your needs if nessecary.

Doctors are not just for physical illnesses.

Merkin

You poor thing, you've been through so much.

You absolutely should discuss it with your doctor. It might be an idea to write down beforehand what it is you want say/how you are feeling so that you make sure you cover everything during your appointment.

There is a very good Bereavement forum here on Boards which might help. The doctor may also advise you to take some time off and will write you a note in that regard. You're doing the right thing by being open about how you are feeling. There is a lot of help out there.

Janey_Mac

If you're having trouble getting the words out to the doctor, just print out your post here and let him/her have a read of it, then they'll know the basic situation and will be able to ask you questions if they have to.

LegacyUser

Op here. Thanks for the replies. I am half looking forward and half dreading going to the doc. I have a young baby and that is who I have to think of. I have to be at my best and at the moment I'm not.

froodie

Janey_Mac wrote: »

If you're having trouble getting the words out to the doctor, just print out your post here and let him/her have a read of it, then they'll know the basic situation and will be able to ask you questions if they have to.

Absolutely. I know from personal experience it can be difficult to voice things to people. I'd say print this post and bring it in anyway. It will be an icebreaker.
I hope you can talk to your doc, she may recommend counselling... if she does, then go for it. A good counsellor can be a great help.

I hope you can take the time to deal with everything and heal. All the best.