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Worried for parents

  • 14-04-2013 10:49pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hi there. Usual anon stuff.

    I'm not really sure how best to describe this. It basically comes down to my siblings and I worried for our parents. I'm extremely worried for them. And i'm wondering is there any advice out there to best support them. The reason?

    One of our siblings has been having a lot of health problems. These have been coming on for the past several years due to an accident. My parents have been going through the mill emotionally and psychially (as they would) over this and they've aged considerably over a short space of time and it just has sucked a lot of life out of them.

    The main issue is, said patient had finally got treatment which "cured" the ailment. We were all delighted and it was closure for us all. This turned out to be premature, and then another operation was needed. And another, and another, all in the space of 3 months. Each time it was met with absolute joy, until then it proved a failure. It's been an emotional rollarcoaster.

    Tonight they've been told again that the operation failed and my mother just whimpered "I can't do this anymore" and started crying. I'd imagine seeing their child in this much pain is heart-breaking, but again I'm wondering is there anything I can do to help them?


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  • #2
    somefeen
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    Reading that broke my heart a bit.

    Your entire family is obviously suffering at the moment. Sometimes in situations like this the children seem to want to support the parents, especially when they are bit older, in their teens or twenties.
    The problem is you are obviously just as affected by this as they are and you ALL need support. Of course it is good to be there for each other but at times like this outside support can be hugely beneficial.
    Get them to speak to the doctors treating your sibling, there is support available for families of those suffering long term or serious illnesses and anyone in the medical profession should be able to point you towards it.
    You're parents may be hesitant to speak to someone as most of the last generation are, but if you can convince them to, it will be the best thing you can do for them at this time.

    Don't neglect your own head and your own feelings either, make sure you look after yourself aswell.
    Best of luck, sincerely hope it works out for you and your family.


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